My husband going on a vacation for 2 weeks while I am 2nd time pregnan

Sneha - posted on 01/10/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hello there,
My husband went to a friend's wedding by himself for a week while my daughter was one years old and said to me that he doesn't want my one year old to go far away to Goa therefore I had to stay at home and look after my daughter while he went to enjoy the wedding. Now I am 2nd time pregnant and he is going on a vacation to Kenya with his parents while I am staying back home to look after my daughter. Dones anyone think this is right?

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Michelle - posted on 01/10/2016

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Going to a wedding (if it's close family) is different to going on a holiday with his parents. Being a friends wedding is different though, he didn't have to be there. I wouldn't be happy about it either.
Mind you my husband wouldn't be that selfish and go away without myself and kids.

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Sneha - posted on 01/11/2016

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My ex uses to rape me and torture me. A lot of bad memories in that place. The only reason I continued with this relationship is coz I went through severe postnatal depression after my daughter was born hence my confident level dropped down badly. Right now I feel very strong about ending this relationship but my mum thinks that I should carry on with it since I am pregnant and separate once the 2nd child is about a year old as it will be difficult for me to look after 2 kids without having financial support. I stopped working since I had my daughter and it's been 2 and half years now

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2016

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You are pregnant, you don't have a terminal illness. Plus you are only a few months along, you are more than capable of looking after yourself and a 2yo. Does he really think you are that hopeless?
Why is it a problem that your ex husband is in Nairobi? There's obviously more to this than you are telling us.
If you want to stay with a controlling husband then that's up to you. I wouldn't have stayed when he was going through my things.

Sneha - posted on 01/10/2016

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Thanks Michelle. Initially he told me that he will go for a week but today he booked the tickets and told me the dates. He wants to go ton kenya because his parents are ping there and they were both born there so he wants to see where they were born. Yes you are right in saying that he is controlling because he has recorded my private conversation with my mum in the past, he's gone through my phone to check who I chat with and what, he's gone through my emails and my personal diary too in the past. When I asked him why he's going for 2 weeks he said that he can book my tickets if I want to join him but the problem is that my ex husband lives in Nairobi plus it will be hard for me to look after myself since I am pregnant plus I have to look after my 2 years old too as he doesn't help out at all especially when he's with his parents

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2016

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Well he sounds very controlling. He doesn't care about your feelings and to me that's not a healthy marriage.
Being so early in your pregnancy, travel is safe so there's no reason for you not to be included.
You need to discuss this with your husband and tell him how you feel. If you don't tell him then he really won't know, a lot of men need things spelled out to them.
It would be interesting to know what his response is though.

Sneha - posted on 01/10/2016

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I am 10/ 11 weeks pregnant and my husband hasn't even bothered asking me how I feel nor did he bother asking me if it's OK by me that he goes on a holiday. He just decided and told me that he has booked his tickets for 2 weeks away

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