My husband got a 2nd DUI with my 3 year old son

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My husband got a 2nd DUI with my 3 year old son, I am very worried about whats going to happen in court. My husband is a wonderful father to our son and ever since his first DUI (before my son was born) never drives even if he drinks one beer. What happen this time was that his cousin passed away and had 4 beers with his family, that night he had to pick me up from work and had no one to leave my son with ( my son wont stay with anyone unless if his dad my mom or I) so he had to take him. He got pulled over because the night before someone stoled our license plate sticker. What should I do or have to do so nothing bad can happen with my son in court?


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Jodi - posted on 05/04/2013




Also remind your husband that other people who WERE doing the right thing probably had their children in cars that night and if something had gone wrong, your drunk husband would have their lives on his hands too. It's not just always about the car the person is driving but the other people on the road too. It is VERY selfish.

Having said that, I can't say whether there will be an issue with your son. But if there is, just remember he chose to pay the price.

Amy - posted on 05/04/2013




I don't know if anything will happen regarding your son in court, did the police also sure him for child endangerment? If your husband knew he had to pick you up, then he should of stopped drinking regardless of the situation but since he knew he was going to have your son he definitely should of stopped.

Angela - posted on 05/04/2013




Sorry, although it's terrible bad luck for him, he still shouldn't have driven after having had a drink - with OR without your child in the car. There are such things as taxis and buses, you know! Why did it have to be your husband who collected you from work? Why couldn't he tell you he'd had a drink and wasn't in a fit state to drive? Alcohol in your system, regardless of how well you might still be able to drive your car, DOES mean you're not fit to drive, period. And it sort of sounds like an excuse saying he got pulled over because someone had stolen your license plate sticker. He was driving with alcohol in his system and he got pulled over, it's as simple as that. This is regarded as very, very serious in the UK where I live.

Having said all that, I don't know how your husband's offence would impact on your child when he's at Court. In the UK, an individual up at Court for this offence would simply get a driving ban - maybe even a custodial sentence. He/she may get "points" on his/her license but this is unlikely for drunken driving. Going to jail is generally for repeat offenders unless damage was done whilst under the influence - or serious endangerment of others.

If he drives as part of his job, he may lose his job.

I'm sorry for your troubles but because I'm British I don't know how this is dealt with in YOUR country.

Good luck.

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