my husband had a daughter to her ex gf without knowing it and now disturbing our family after 10 years of her relationship to my husband asking for support...

Princess - posted on 10/14/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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i am married for 6 years now, my husband and i have two boys.. my younger just died march 6 2012 because of hypo ventilation syndrome.. i am still on the process of recovery about my emotions and psychological disturbances about the death of my 2nd son.. and just this month october 12, 2012 my husband got a phone call from the provost marshall informing him that a woman was complaining him for not supporting their daughter, and my husband didnt knew that he had a 9 year old daughter to her ex girl friend..in my surprise i was crying and now i could'nt sleep every night because i havent recover yet about my son's death and now another problem, and i talked to my husband and ask him if he had a sexual activity before with that woman, and he said yes, but we are just 18 years old that time, and the fact that she didnt tell anything about her conception to my husband.. the last week we try to contact her by getting her number at the complaint letter she made and then when my husband talk to her and ask her what she need,she was nagging my husband and shouting and saying very awful words to my husband, i could not stand what she was saying i grab the phone and say to her that i was the wife of her ex.. and then i told her that we cannot solve her issue if she will shout and not stopping to blame my husband, and then she told me that i do not have the right to interfere because i do not know about her and my husband which made me a bit mad, and she was challenging me that she will file a case against my husband.. she was threatening us for my husband is an Army.. what should i do? what will be the legal things that i can do because this woman is giving me psychological disturbances and i did not do anything bad to her.. please help i really cant sleep because of this issues..

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Dove - posted on 10/14/2012

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I agree entirely with 'Little Miss' for about the third time this morning. ;)



I am so sorry for your loss... and to pile this on top of it so soon. My prayers and ♥ are with you.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/14/2012

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One more thought, have you been seeing a grievance counselor? This might really help you with the loss of your son.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/14/2012

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Well, first things first breath. Big hugs about your son, and the huge devastating loss to your family. So sorry to hear abut that heartbreaking news.



Secondly, get a lawyer, and ask for a paternity test. If he is the father, then she has every right to ask for support, but also he has every right to file for visitations and may actually have a really good case because he was never told about this child.



I guess you and your husband really need to discuss what he wants to do. Does he want a relationship with his child? It is also your childs half sibling. This is a very confusing time for your family, and I really wish you the bests of luck. But try to have an open heart to this child. It is not her fault your husband was never told, not her fault she grew up without a father, and certainly NOT her fault that she has a mother that denied her all the information. This really is about the kid now.

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