My husband had an affair with a co worker and she got pregnant

Anitanail - posted on 10/18/2016 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My world is upside down , my husband had an affair with a co worker , I found out in july that she had his baby, the baby was born in january, we have a son who is 19 and I am struggling with how to deal with this. I love my husband but I cant make up my mind to stay or go

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Carol - posted on 10/22/2016

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Sadly I think best run and don't look back hurt bad once and no need of a second chance,life is too short

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2016

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If you feel you can ever trust your husband again then I would suggest counseling.
If you feel that you can't trust him again then it's probably best to leave. I was cheated on and could never trust him again.
Like Carol said, it probably isn't the first time he has cheated on you, especially since he hid this one from you for so long.

Dove - posted on 10/18/2016

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I would recommend some counseling for yourself and if you think you might want to stay in the marriage... demand some couple's counseling as well. That's a lot of hiding and deceit on his part. It might be possible to move past, but that child will always be a reminder and it's not the child's fault. If your marriage is going to work you will need to be able to accept the child into your life as completely blameless. So like I said... a lot of therapy is needed here. ♥

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Ann - posted on 10/26/2016

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Since you are not sure what to do I pray that you get counsel first. I hope he is also willing to get marriage counseling. I will say a prayer for you.

Michelle - posted on 10/22/2016

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So he's only guilty about this one because he got caught.
Yeah right, he will cheat on you again so I think you should run.

Anitanail - posted on 10/22/2016

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Yes it is something that he did ( the affair) and yes he is sorry for it and I did file for divorce sept 30th just not sure what I want to do, I know i dont want to deal with the fact that this woman will be in my life due to exchanging of their baby but I also know that we still love each other .. he treated me like gold for 19 years and i never suspected a thing until then

Anitanail - posted on 10/22/2016

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I am pretty sure she wasnt the first , this was just the one time he was caught and by me due to the constant text messages and phone calls. I do love him but im not sure if i can deal with it

Ann - posted on 10/19/2016

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How is he feeling? Is this something that he did (the affair) and it's over? I understand how this is horrible in what he, but if he is sincerely sorry and wants to be restored, I believe marriage is worth saving. I have seen where the husband cheated on his wife, but didn't want to lose her. They had too much invested in their relationship. It takes time, a lot of prayer and counsel. I have an article that I hope will help you.

http://bit.ly/2e7G8MB

Carol - posted on 10/18/2016

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Run and run as deceit never stops one time it's probably already happening again

Anitanail - posted on 10/18/2016

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I have accepted the child, I absolutely love her. I just don't know if i can get over the entire situation.

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