my husband has an affair with another woman. he said he doesn't love me anymore. but his actions are different. sometimes he's good and sweet. sometimes he's bad and i get all the insults. i'm confused:-(
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Bobbie - posted on 10/02/2012
First claim the right to be honored and respected. How can he insult you when he is not honoring your marriage ?
My suggestion is that you move through your life and make choices on what is best for you, not what is best for the marriage. In this way it is always a win ~ win situation.
When my husband cheated, for the 2nd time I finally took this advise. We were together for a while after he said it was over because it was the best thing for me. I needed to see for myself if my feelings were still there. They were there but the damage was done to my soul. I filed for divorce when I was ready. It was all so difficult, it is best to have your best interest at heart. You have already given up much just by his cheating. You deserve a better life, whatever that looks like to you, go for it.
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Theresque - posted on 11/03/2012
I went through this same thing. My ex husband and I weren't even married for 2 years before he started cheating and it continued. So you really have to ask God if this man is ordained for you. I was married for 10 years and just recently divorced almost a year now. No woman deserves to be treated this way...disrespected, lied to, mind games...I know it all too well. You have to know your worth and I don't think its Gods intententions for us to be miserable in marriage and if you are then you are not married to the one God has ordained for your life. Yes making the decision to get a divorce was hard but it was the right thing to do. Ultimately you have to do what's right for you and put it in Gods hands and he will restore you and bring you through.
Dianne - posted on 10/03/2012
It very hard do u still love him! Have gone through the similar thing so I told him I wasn't going anywhere he had to pull his head in & learn to love me again.it the trust tat is hard to get over . E in love with work ages & twin brother his parents have never let go either he thinks e still has to answer to te all the time! They think they are still litte boys not 50yr olds it very hard . Go & talk to someone for canceling that helps . E actions are because he been caught out they like to have their cake & eat it too!
Darcie - posted on 10/02/2012
I went through this. My ex had an affair I moved out into my parents he moved in with his girlfriend and kept telling me he wants me back but yet he didn't support me nor our children and he wouldn't move out of his girlfriends house. He played lots of mind games. It was a very hard decision to file for divorce but I am very grateful that I did. He is a very selfish man. So does he still have a girlfriend our was it a one time thing?
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