Kandis - posted on 09/26/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
My husband hasnt seen his son in 5 years, because he couldnt find his ex, had no phone number, no way of reaching her etc. Well for the last year we have been paying a lawyer to work his case, and were finally able to find her, and serve her with papers for order to show cause. Well the court day was today, and she didnt fight for him to not see his son, she says we will set up dates and times to see him. Over this 5 years my husband has not paid the childsupport (basically because she hadnt asked for it) and now, she says if you let the step father adopt him we wont go for ANY of the back child support, but if you dont let him adopt we will go for all of the back owed childsupport. My husband is so confused, because he loves his son, and wants to see his son again, he hates that its been so long, but he wants his son to know his other siblings. (we have one son together and i have 2 kids from my previous marriage) So he is totally confused on what to do. He wants to see his son, and be a part of his life, but at the same time, we can afford all the back owed childsupport. We live pay check to pay check. I told him we will work it out, cut out certain expenses where we can, and try to get any extra income we can. ....Any advise form anyone that has been threw something similar???