my husband hates my dog and always complains but his cat poops in my garage shoul i let him go to a new home

Christy - posted on 01/16/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a yellow lab that me and the kids love to death but my husbands is alway yelling because he comes in hyper or is always in the way I don't always have alot of time seeing as how I have three kids but we play fetch and hes loves his attention my husband says I don't do enough but this dog loves us to death I am worried my two year old will be looking for the dog and be depressed why should I have to give up my pet that is great and he can keep his damn cats I don't know I am already getting depressed I feel like he would be so sad anyone with experience on this

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Christy - posted on 01/16/2014

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He had two cats prior to the relationship which I am fine with and I have a cat which we adopted from my grandma were fine on them. The dog we got together the agreement was I would clean the poop but we would all play with the dog and do the training so far it has just been me I have been doing extra training with him which he does good the cat on the othere hand his parents always had then they moved here and did not want to take care of it anymore so we got stuck with it. If she did not pee and poop everywhere I would not care so much but my washer and dryer are outside thats how I get into my back yard so the dog can go poo its just so gross. His parents agree he should do something about her not just for the poo but for her she can't even walk she stands up takes two slow steps and falls sideways I don't think she should suffer anymore I love my dog yes but If he was like that I would put him down. He used to love the dog when he was a puppy but now that he is older and larger he does not like him it's amazing how when you are not married he likes dogs and beaches and all that than suddenly he does not but I am just going to ignore his opinion on the dog thing and just accept the fact that I am going to do it alone but your right about the kids helping the two year old loves to help my five year old hes more interested in playing with his friends.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/16/2014

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Well, did the two of you discuss the dog prior to bringing him into the family? Or is it a case of you brought your dog and he brought his cat?

Its not fair to him for you to dictate that he needs to have the cat put down. He's just as attached to his cat as you are to your dog. And, if he didn't agree to the dog, or just took the dog as part of the partnering, it's not fair of you to ask him to take on extra responsibilities in regards to the dog. And, for you to ask in a manner that indicates that his pet is less important than yours is just plain rude and assuming.

I understand if your kids are younger, it's more difficult for them to help, but if you want them to grow up being responsible pet parents, they need to learn young. So, no matter what, he needs at least that hour of exercise each day. This can be in the form of playing fetch, as long as he is getting physically stimulated. Perhaps, since the kids are younger, hubby can watch kids while you walk the dog, rather than you wanting him to walk your dog. He's not going to want to do anything with the dog as long as you're holding the cat over his head. He's going to figure (and rightly, in my opinion) that if you want him to get rid of the cat, the dog's got to go as well.

Try to sit down and work out a compromise that you can both agree on. Its better in the long run to be in agreement before bringing pets into the mix, but since it looks like these respective pets came with you prior to the relationship, it needs to be addressed.

Christy - posted on 01/16/2014

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Thanks your for the advice on running him a hour a day and it's not a excuse about the kids it's just been the last month since I had my daughter my husband works two jobs night and day 7 days a week so It can be challenging with the little ones to get outside but we try I am definealty interested in any tips you have with this breed as for the cat ya drives me crazy not just the pooping she is about 16 and can barely walk you can tell she is in pain but he wont just let her go it's just frustrating because I just need a little help with him maybe walking the dog or taking the kids so I can do it. I decided to spend more time with him even if I need to wake up a hour early the boys love him and he adores me so much I just can't give him up because hes being a ass this dog is family and he is my responsibility it feels so nice to vent Im a stay at home mom so im so trapped somtimes.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/16/2014

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well, first of all, a lab breed needs more than a few minutes of fetch each day to expend their energy. They need at least an hour of vigorous activity. So, your husband is right, in that you really don't spend enough time exercising the dog, resulting in his continued hyperactivity indoors. I've got a lab breed as well, and they need the extra time to run off the energy.

And using the kids as an excuse to "explain" why you don't spend enough time with him is pretty lame, actually, as dogs and kids complement each other when it comes to running that extra energy off. My kids have always had the responsibility of 1/2 hour a day (each kid) exercising our dogs, as soon as they were old enough.

On the flip side, if he's got cats that are not box trained, or outdoor trained, he needs to take responsibility for that.

So, I'd say that, if you don't have at the very minimum an hour each day to exercise your lab, you need to find him a forever home where he will get the necessary exercise and attention. If your husband cannot box train or outdoor train the cats, he needs to find a forever home for them where they will be properly cared for, and then the both of you need to re-examine your desire to have pets prior to obtaining any others.

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