Therese - posted on 01/16/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )
I just recently got married to my boyfriend of nearly four years and after only four months into our marriage but three plus years of dating he decides to tell me that he has a five year old son with a woman he just acquainted with in the past. I'm extremely shocked, disappointed but above all hurt that someone I thought I knew so well would hide something like that from me all these years. I don't hate the little boy even tho I'm yet to meet him or his mother and would like for my husband to have a relationship with him which is very important to me rather that just paying child support. My worries are that having a relationship with his son would mean having a relationship with his child's mother too which the last thing I need is baby momma drama. I'm hurt that my first child wouldn't be my husbands' and my first pregnancy wouldn't be his first experience with such but this is something I'm going to have to deal with because I love this man and I want to love and accept his son too. I'd hate for the innocent little boy to be a constant reminder of all this misery going on. I really need some help/ advice. I can't really seek advice from my best friends or even my mother since this is still a secret between my husband and I. He's yet to contact his child's mother to get back into his child's life because he needs "time" so I need help on what to do before all this kicks in please. Thank you for reading and God bless.