Savannah - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 38 moms have responded )
We are on a very very tight budget. We are having serious money problems which is why we need to follow this very tight budget.
Ok. So here is the problem. My husband went out and bought two shirts on ebay. The total was about 30 bucks. I'm not upset about the amount and I am not that terribly pissed that he bought them behind my back even though he has a closet full of nice dress shirts. I am freaking FURIOUS that he lied to me about it.
He came home last night telling me that we owed his brother steve big time because he had just gone through his closet and -coincidence of coincidences- had two shirts and a tie that were in my husbands size. (my husband and his brother are not the same size) He showed them to me all happy and here's the concerning part to me (after the bold faced lie in the first place): the shirts were pretty wrinkly but yet the lines from it being in the box were still there. He said, "wow! He never even wore them!"
Now what he didn't know was that we both have the same mail icon on our desktops for our computer. I thought that I was on my desktop and opened up his mail browser thinking it was mine and saw that he had won two shirts. This was a week ago. I raised an eyebrow but didn't think much of it because I thought for sure that he would have told me. Never mentioned it, just exited out and went to my homepage instead.
So the extent he went to lie to me is VERY concerning. He took them out of their wrapping and wrinkled them up as best as he could to convince me that his brother had sent them to him.
The really sad thing is that I believed him right off the bat because I thought we were honest with each other. Then I remembered the notification from ebay.
So I asked him straight out if he was just making up the story so that I wouldn't get mad. he said "why would I do that?" I left it at that.
This morning I looked at his mail and saw the notifications again and the pictures of the shirts so now I know for a fact that he lied to me.
The even sadder part is that he has done this same thing before. Two years ago he bought a 90 dollar sweater vest behind my back and told me his mom got it for him for his birthday. He doesn't know that she told me the truth about that and the truth is that he bought it himself and asked her to lie for him by saying that she had bought it.
So how do I handle this? I am so ticked off. What would you do?