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My husband and I have been together since I was 17 I am now 32, we use to party together I thought we were just having fun. I was able to stop, but for him the party has not stop yet, instead of being a fun party that everyone wants to go to it is now a solo party, and now that we have kids I was just hoping he would want to grow up and not drink and stay up all night long and sleep all day everyday.
In the begining everything was great as in most relationships, but shortly after I fell in love with him it started going down hill, he gave me so much love and so much attention (plus we were high all the time on mj so of course we were always happy) He was not in love with me the way I was with him, he is my first and only, plus he showed everyone he met love and attention (esspecially the ladies) All jokes aside he was a very sweet and caring person to every person he came across. And a great cook I fell so hard for him, no one ever showed me love like that before. It took him about a year and a half to love me and stop sleeping around, so a hand full of female and one best friend later he realized he loved me, he promissed to stop being a dumbass and hurting me by sleeping around. The whole time he was sleeping around, I would play mind games to get him back which I realize now was probably worst than cheating on him I should have just left but I didn't, by doing what I did I messed with what he valued most his mind I created a whole lot of pain between us another reason I don't drink anymore. Long long story short he uses what I did for his reason to still drink ( He feels I didn't stick to the agreement we made over ten years ago, which was not to mess with his head anymore and I don't but he needs to understand I just speak the way I speak he knows it's not just towards him) I had a real f@cked up childhood my mom was crazy so I didn't pick up the greatest conversation skills and I have a bad memory so he gets frustrated alot, but we have kids now and there is a lot of love between us still so I don't know what to do? He is a great dad betterwhen hes up and wants to be, better than I am at being a mom. He just drinks everyday and if he drinks too much he starts thinking about negitive thing and come to me in the middle of the night calling me things that aren't true so then Iget all pissed of even though I know hes drunk and than sleeps the whole next day. How do I make it better I have no money since got layed off when I went on leave from work and no family down here or real friends.