RaeLynn - posted on 12/31/2009 ( 269 moms have responded )
My husband is not my 5yr olds real dad. We are unsure of when an apporpirate age is of when to tell her. One of my sister - in- laws thinks we should tell her right now, so much so she bought a book for her about adoption. ( my husband adopted her). My daughter has not seen the book nor do I ever want her to, EVER! My mother & father - in law think when she is around 7 or 8.
I myself dont realy want to tell her until she is older. I have seen first hand a really bad reaction to a child finding out before 10 yrs old that her dad wasnt her 'real' dad. And my husband and I do not want to live in that kind of hell. But I also know that a bad reaction can happen at any age. I guess I think if we tell her when she is around 15 or 16, we may only have to live in a hell for a few years before she decides to leave home.
I guess Im just looking for outside opinions, possibly from women who are in the same situation as myself.