My husband it disrespectful of me in front of our children and I am trying to save our marriage.

Maria Beth - posted on 08/29/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My husband is consistently disrespectful of me in front of my 19 year old daughter and 14 year old son. His disrespect encourages them to be disrespectful. If we are all watching a movie and they don't like it he tells them to change it because I can watch it in another room. He states he will not go along with my choices if he doesn't believe in them. He doesn't enforce a curfew for my son and will not pick him up if he is out late. I love him very much and have been with him 24 years but I can't take it anymore. In addition to all of this I pay the vast majority of the bills and he drinks quite a bit. I am at my wits end. He is very handsome and states he loves the children and I but I feel like I am his doormat. I have been trying very hard to hold my family together.

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Ashley - posted on 08/29/2013

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You don't need anyone to tell you this behavior is unacceptable. I can't imagine, if after 24 years, that's what it had become. Your husband must understand what example he is setting. He is teaching your son it's okay to treat a woman that way, and teaching your daughter that it's okay for a man to treat her that way. He clearly doesn't understand the weight he holds upon his shoulders as a father. If you are self sufficient and he seemingly is using you at this point, showing you no appreciation or respect than it comes down to you. Don't expect him to change with no incentive. You've got to let him know you are serious about walking away. You don't "need" him! He needs you! Remind him of that. If his family means what it ought to mean to him, he will shape up. If not, you are all better off without him. Keep your chin up!

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Ashley - posted on 08/29/2013

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That part, I completely understand. I will add however, that this isn't simply an issue of your marriage, its an issue of his parenting. If he is setting a poor example for your children, it is your duty to protect them. Have you spoken to your children about his behavior? I grew up in a household where there was something similar and I will say that it was difficult. Parents who are not on the same page is a place of destruction for a teen. I know, I was that teen. You AND your children deserve more. Prayers for strength coming your way. I can't imagine what this must be like for you.

Maria Beth - posted on 08/29/2013

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Thank you sincerely. I appreciate your feedback. It is hard since we have children but I sincerely want my self respect as well.

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