My husband left me after I found out he was addicted to painkillers

Amanda - posted on 12/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am just feeling so alone. I have two small kids I am trying to be strong through all of this I found out my husband was addicted to painkillers a month ago. Our relationship hasn't been good for the last two years since my first daughter was born. I think that might of been the time when he started them. Not everyday was bad but he would get really bad mood swings and since my last daughter was born he would always be tired or sick. I started keeping track of how sick he always was because I thought he was using it as an excuse to not be around the kids this was before I knew about the pills. I found out he took them because he stole from me when I had kidney stones he cried and told me he needed help and went once to see a drug counselor but his behavior towards me was still very mean. He would yell at me over practically nothing. He just recently told a friend he left because I didn't respect him and his example was I didn't do his laundry. I used to do his laundry until he told me he didn't like the way I did it or when I would do it. His mother absolutely babied him with that always washing and feeding him and that's what he was looking for from me. I am a mother of two young girls I am not his mother I would do it for him until he made comments that I didn't do it right. So now I am alone and it doesn't feel so bad I do get lonely but will call a friend. I don't know what I am trying to accomplish by righting this I just want some advise I guess because he left and I don't really want him back I feel bad for my kids but haven't been yelled at or called any mean names since he has been gone. I don't know if he want to come back or quite taking pills he texts me to ask about the kids and I say they are fine and that's it. He doesn't ask about me. I took off my wedding ring last night


Ev - posted on 12/27/2013




I am sorry you are going through this but I would send him a message somehow that he must make a choice, the drugs or you and the family by going to rehab and counseling. If he does not choose, then it might be time to consider divorce and custody. That is not an easy road either but for you and the girls it might be best to get things going and set up. If he was hiding this from you for a while before you found out, he may not be whiling to change at all and that in and of itself is a big red flag. Please do what you feel is best but do so for those girls. They do not need to be around someone who is high on drugs where they could be put into harm's way or danger. Take care and work this out for your girls.

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