Amanda - posted on 07/07/2016 ( 20 moms have responded )
I have been married for 4 years and became a step mom to my step son when he was 6. (He is now 10.) The baby mama and I have never had any real problems, everything has always been pretty friendly. However, in the beginning I tried to befriend her and she made it very clear to me that she did NOT want to be my friend and that she was simply "tolerating" me for the sake and well being of her son. My husbands family invites her to family events and it never annoyed me until I felt like they were ganging up on me. I feel like I have never been accepted by one of my husband's sisters. The baby mama dated my husband for all of 4 months before she got pregnant. They were never engaged, married, or even serious. They had so many problems, my husband tried to make it worth with her ONLY for the sake of his son, and it ended up being a nightmare. She was never even CLOSE to his family until I came into the picture, so I can't help but think it is just to spite me. She showed up at my niece's baby shower and her and my sister in law talked about when the ex and my husband were together...reminiscing about certain stories. I thought it was completely inappropriate not to mention rude. On Facebook they are all up each others butts with the comments, telling each other how beautiful they are, how amazing they are as mothers, etc etc. It seems like it is really fake to me and all a show just to annoy me. I told my husband how it made me feel and he had a talk with his sister about how it was hurting my feelings. She basically told him to buzz off and she would be friends with who she wanted. I have never been mean to the sister in law, never done anything to her, and I feel that the nicer I am to her the more she hates me. I know I just have to be the bigger person and ignore it, but everytime something happens I Just feel this rage boiling up inside me. It's so wrong. Why can't his baby mama step back and realize she is trampling into my territory? I do not go into hers.. She calls my sister in law HER sister in law. She calls my nieces HER nieces. Honestly it makes her look pathetic. and I just think she should have some mutual respect. I don't understand the behavior of my sister in law either. It makes me really want to avoid her, if not be rude to her all together. I don't deserve this treatment! Any advice?