Angela - posted on 02/21/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have 2 sons from a previous relationship who's father is deceased. We started with one daughter together and my husband mom side of the family would just always shower her with gifts, as my sons would see this. I made a comment to my husband that this isn't fair and that if they can't get all the kids something then they don't need to get any of them anything. He said he would have a talk with them which I doubt he ever said anything cause they continued. My sons only received gifts for Christmas. Well a couple years later and we now have another daughter and the same thing. My sons were visiting my sister and they had told her how their sisters always get gifts and they get nothing, so when she told me what they had said I was really upset. I told my husband this is exactly what I didn't want happening. The boys have noticed and have always noticed and never said anything. My husband is a step child so I would assume he would be one person that would completely understand. He mentioned to his mom and she has gotten better, but never ask to spend time with the boys, but will with the girls. His step dad side of the family is amazing. They have always treated the kids fairly and never have I ever felt out of place with them, but I always dreaded going to his moms side because his grandma has been so obvious. She always wants pictures with her grandkids, so while my sons sisters are getting pictures taken they are in the sideline. I'm so tired of this and no longer even want to go to his moms side for any reason. I don't even know what to do anymore. My family is fully aware and asking me why myself or my husband aren't standing up for my sons. My husband is quick to express how he feels to anyone, but when it's about my sons it's like he holds back and it's hurtful because he knows how it makes me and my sons feel. It's caused many arguments and I don't even know what to do. Has anyone been in this situation or have any suggestions before I completely cut his family off?