Kimberly - posted on 08/18/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am not sure if I am over reacting but...I am frustrated with my husband's ex-wife(Karen) taking advantage of us. I would describe her as a bully. They have two little girls ages 4 and 6 which I adore. She will ask for extra days to keep the girls, which is no problem. However, when we have a special event that falls on his days she throws a fit and points out the parenting plan agreement. Then she puts my husband down as a man, father and goes beyond by criticizing his looks and the way he dresses. She is just mean! The problem is all she has to do is talk nice to him and he runs to her beck and call and say's he does it for the girls. Their parenting plan states they must meet at a location in between our homes for pick up and drop off. However, he ends driving all the way to her house on his days and pays crazy toll fees and an hour and half round trip.
He recently allowed her to go to his moms house to pick the girls up. In the past she was verbally abusive to his mom. I was livid and could not believe he would allow her near his mom.
I have tried to be very understanding and mind my business. But it is starting to really get to me emotionally. I feel like he has two wives and two lives. I too have a parenting plan but we stick to it and are respectful to each other. So, I know it can work. I have talked to him more than I can say. I love my husband , he is a wonderful man. I think he just doesn't like conflict and tries to make everyone happy. However, I now have a wall up and feel myself putting distance between us. I am tired of expressing how I feel. I am in a deep hole and don't feel the same way I used to about my relationship and marriage. I am 50 and just want peace in my life. I am also feeling issues with trust.
Simply at a loss.