Mom - posted on 08/10/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Ever since my husband and I dated, I knew he was the controlling type. I used to have many friends and my life was balanced. Since we were dating everything changed. He didn't like my friends, and he didn't like me going out without him. In fact, he didn't like me going out at all. So I didn't. I thought to myself. He's a good man and we both need to sacrifice something to make our future work. We got married and we had two kids in the same year. During the past 3 years, we lived with my inlaws which turned out horrible. We didnt get a long and they were so annoying I didn't even want to be in the same room with them. I was in my room with my two kids all day. I brought the kids out to parks and just outside the house everyday for some fresh air and so that the growing kids got some sun and outside play time. Other than that, we were in our room. During this time, my husband felt neglected bc weren't having enough sex. Our relationship got to a point where he felt neglected, and got mad at me for turning him down when he requested. I felt like all he wanted was just to satisfy himself. He didn't care how I felt or how miserably I was. He always said that I got the easy job being at home with the kids. That made me furious. He has issues, trusting issues and he is insecure. I'm honestly really really tired. His EQ is so low and mine is so high. I tolerated him right from the start bc I do realize that he is a good man. But now he is being so disrespectful. Today he yelled at me in chuckee cheese in public and told me to shut up in front of my kids. I want to leave him and be myself again. But I'm scared I won't be able to support my kids. I work 3 part time jobs now and they both go to montessori school. If I divorce him, they will lose all of this. Is anyone going through the same thing? What should I do? My kids are still so young 4 and 3. I can't stand my husband anymore. Enough is enough.