C - posted on 10/02/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )
I found out that my then boyfriend cheated on me and had his first child with someone else while I was pregnant with our first child. He claims he did not know that the girl got pregnant and kept it, and found out about his daughter months before I got pregnant. During my pregnancy he took his daughter in, we lived in different states but he was there for our son when he was born. We got married 2 years ago. His daughter is 5 (i think) and our son is 3 1/2. He is in his daughter’s life though they live in different states.
I never forgave him for what he did; it is a constant problem in our relationship. I love him and married him because i love him and wanted my family to be a unit. Now the time has come for her to visit and i am not happy about it. I have been trying to work with this for years. I am typing this contemplating divorce. This is not something I ever wanted to deal with, and he has done an okay job of keeping that aspect of his life away from me. However this was bound to happen and it is bringing up the same feelings again, I am hurt and after being together for 11 years I believe that I am going to leave him now for something he did 6 years ago. Yes I love my husband and but I no longer like him. I may see this little girl and like her but anticipating this situation is making me angry and I do not know how to deal with this. Has anyone been in a like predicament and came out with family intact?