Tanya - posted on 05/11/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
Several months ago my teen stepdaughter moved in with my husband and I. She was with a family member in MO for 3 years, and we live in CA.
She wasn't allowed to see the family here much at all. So clearly they are excited.
My problem is that I have a teen daughter, who with her stepsister has been inseparable. They were like best friends. But my in laws constantly invite or rather tell my husband of plans they've made with my stepdaughter. He says nothing. My mother-in-law controls everything with this teen.
Once again, without asking, Disneyland tickets were bought for her to go with his family on a school day. My husband was angry about her missing school, especially with her grades suffering and 13 school days left. My child is in school today, while his enjoys Disneyland.
But I was beyond angry. I had a sad mother's day, because my depressed teen stayed in bed from once again being secluded. My husband told me his family has no obligation to my daughter.
I'm beyond hurt. I treat his daughter as good as I do mine. Am I wrong to expect my daughter to be included? Before his daughter came, my daughter talked of how much she loved his mom as her grandma. She says She hates his family now.
This is wreaking havoc on my marriage, as my husband sees my feelings as wrong. And he will not say a word to his mom, when he is angry for his own reasons.
I'd appreciate input, because I really don't know if I'm wrong, but it surely feels wrong, and ny daughter is becoming very depressed.