My kids and myself were invited to their cousins birthday party 9 days prior to the date.

Christina - posted on 11/13/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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However, I had already RSVP'd to a party for my son's friend and had my daughter make plans to hang with a friend for the duration and I have to work after the party. I don't have time to attend both because I have to work that evening. If I hadn't already made plans I would've attended cousins party and left a little early to be in work on time. 9 days is not enough notice to decide not to work due to a party and I have continuously asked if I can snag my niece for a few hours to enjoy her birthday the next day. I have been ignored ever since, and I have heard that I need to cancel my plans because family comes first. I hate being a people pleaser. My kids come first and I do not feel it's right to cancel their pre-engagement because of a last minute party regardless if it's family. I feel bad that we cannot make both parties work. I think I'm doing the right thing by giving her a gift and celebration a little later. No?

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Amy - posted on 11/13/2012

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I agree it's the right thing to do! It wouldn't be fair to the other family who is expecting your child, they've probably already included him in the head count. Send a gift with an IOU. Good luck with your family, it sounds like they can be difficult!

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Christina - posted on 11/13/2012

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Can be difficult is an understatement. I have been busy a few hours every weekend with my children in sports and my niece's parents refuse to bring her up here because of it. The parents are separated and the dad lives right next door to me. We live in a duplex style home. I'm home most of the weekend aside from the football and soccer activities. I'm not home for a total of 2-4 hrs. Then I work Saturday nights, but my fiance is home with our children. And my fiance is the brother to my niece's father. My niece's parents have been very aggravated since I put my children in sports. I've always said bring her up anyway or let's make plans to do something when we're not too busy. No plans have been made and I feel as though I have done my part by asking continuously. I don't feel as though I should drop plans or sports because my brother in law is having his daughter at his own house for the weekend. Our children can still play for a considerable amount of time in between the games and such. We miss her dearly and feel terrible that we cannot make it to the party, which the mom who made the invitation stated "I know it's last minute and it's ok if you can't make it"...I don't understand the problem. Thank you so much for your input. I really appreciate it.

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