Kristine - posted on 11/12/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
This is a crazy situation i am in at the moment. I used to have a " best friend" well lets just say she is now with my children's father in a relationship. It all started off by us having a couple drinks my kids dad and i, ( who i was with at the time) were bickering and arguing so i just went upstairs and passed out. I woke up and they both were gone. I went and confronted my friend and asked what happened she told me the truth they hooked up while i was asleep. Long story short i lost all contact with her and left him. They started seeing each other and now seems to be pretty serious. They both have drinking problems so whenever they drink he is no where to be found... or even him just being around her we do not exist to him. I am sick of being ignored when i am contacting him to inquire about the kids. He waits until hes not around her to respond and also he has made me miss so much work to the point if i miss anymore days i will be fired. He chooses her over his family all the time and it aggravates me. All i ask for him is to be there for his children i don't ask him to be there for me and come see me or anything crazy like that. When i message him or call him its only about the children when i need his help or what not... and he ALWAYS ignores me and does not take my feelings into consideration when he does this. I've tried talking to him about this and it just turns into one big argument. IDK what i should do anymore just leave him be, or pursue him and push him to be there without me having to harass him. He just recently told me he wants no contact with me.. and not to text him.. i told him i will only text him when in regards to the kids and if he does not answer to just even forget about coming around anymore he's been doing this to my babies for too long i will not put up with it anymore. So far he's been sober and showing up so i haven't had to miss any work... idk i still love him and am trying to move on but it is just so hard watching someone you love with someone who used to be your best friend. Any advice would be helpful at this point i just needed to vent and let this out because honestly i don't know what to think anymore or what would be my best decisions in regards to this issue. I know i cant change the fact that he is no longer with me and chooses to come and go whenever he pleases but i could defiantly use a different outlook on this particular situation. Thanks so much for your time ladies and reading my post!