my kids father left me pregnant and moved on to his other bm?

Shameka - posted on 06/09/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Wat should i do im all alone i been with my kids father for six years he cheated and got another woman pregant and me and her are pregant at the same time rte now im only five months he neglicts me and my son and daughter i cry and stess every day i want to enjoy my pregancy but i cant wat should i do?

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Mary - posted on 06/09/2015

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First off I sympathize with your situation. Nobody should ever have to go through what you are going through alone. Secondly you need to find a way to relieve this stress it isn't good for your unborn child nor is it good for your other children. He isn't worth it and he proved that. I would do a lot of soul searching. Find some hobbies, enjoy time with your little ones and eventually everything will fall into place. I know it is easier said than done but your children are watching and your next step can affect them.

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Carmen - posted on 11/11/2015

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Stop giving him money! Why the Hell are you giving him money and he's with her? He should be giving you money!!

Shameka - posted on 06/09/2015

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You need to get out ur mess before its too late hun i know wat i want but the steps i take is gonna be hard to move on every day im depressed most days andi think about him neing happy with her he only comes around wen i get paid or wen he needs me he sayshe here for me but is actions show hes only here to take from me and my children i jut want me and my kids happy for once

Michelle - posted on 06/09/2015

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Sounds like you know in your heart what to do. Go with it and moving will give you privacy. And I'm telling you from experience its better not to be with a man if he does not love you both, It's better to be lonley than with a man that is cheating or abusive or neglecting you or your kid(s). I know its tough, but remember you are tough! and your gonna do whats best for your kids in the long-shot. I'm currently with the father of my son and everyday wishing I had a way out... He's rude and verbally abusive to me and my son cries everytime his dad picks him up or touches him. Makes me think i gotta do something to get out of this mess. Good luck with your mess!

Shameka - posted on 06/09/2015

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i wanna move away to start over the job i wont start till the 22 now i gota start the process all over being friends with her wont work because i still feel for my son and also my daughter father she is having a girl Nd im having a boy i still give him money and do everything for him thinking that will bring him bck home but yestsrday i broke down till i couldnt break anymore and decided to move on

Michelle - posted on 06/09/2015

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I know this sounds crazy. But in my mind you have 2 options. 1. Move away try to make it so your son will never know his father.... but because of legalities and custidy issues... it may be so that your stuck with him and his new lady in you and your sons life someitmes. So if that is the case, I know this sounds nuts, but option #2 is become best friends with her. She feels akward too and if the kids are brothers.... it may be in your favor to be her friend. Because if your stuck knowing her if you become great friends with her she will be on your side about raising your son and you can still try to keep distance between the father but you can make him feel akward instead of you being the one who feels akward... I dunno maybe you dont like this advice,.... but my sons father treats us both really bad so i feel you in that one. Do whatever you gut is telling you is the right thing for your family.

Shameka - posted on 06/09/2015

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thanks so much i say that to my self every day that my kids are watching wat i do i start my new job next week and i feel i just need to change my location next and move in with my life i never thought after six years he would leave me alone and pregant but last year i got pregant and he left again only came around one week out of the month didint visit after i had my second child only was there wen she was born but im try ing to not look wats behind me so i can get to wats in front of me just really stressed and heart broken.with no one to talk to thats why i turned here at least someone can read and hear me out but hopefully my new job will keepy mind off of things and my prince will come to my path one day but i look to my children and i have five months left so im going to try to enjoy these last four months of my pregancy

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