My kids step dad has told me to "pick our marriage or your son!"

Jacqueline - posted on 04/06/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 6 year old boy who was diagnosed with ADHD 14 months ago. His step dad was there for the appointment. My husband has recently taken his kids to their great grandmas house on his visitation week. He and his family believe my son is a "psychopath, and a Maniac." I have not scene any signs of that sickness. My husband feels that his kids are in danger when they are around my son.
He and I have fought a lot about what treatment plan we should take. He believed that my son was just a unruly child. I have been honest about my feelings in regards to my son and his behavior, and I have fought and fought to take my son to therapy, and have meds for him. My husband told me last night via text that I need to pick between my marriage, or my son but I can't have both because no one is happy when my son is around. He wants me to send him to a boys home. I do not feel I can make a choice. I want my son, and I want my marriage. HELP ME PLEASE!

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Michelle - posted on 04/06/2014

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I wouldn't be hoping and praying at all, I would be kicking him out and taking him for what he has. He's not very nice if he is making you choose, he's selfish and you don't need someone like that.

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Jacqueline - posted on 04/06/2014

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I agree. I am hoping and praying that he has a change of heart, and would like to help me instead of making me choose. I have stood by him when we went to court for his kids, when his ex wife accused us of child abuse, when he got very very sick, and now that I need support I get "You have to pick! You can't have both of us!" Very hurtful and stressful.

Michelle - posted on 04/06/2014

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Sorry but if your husband is giving you that ultimatum then he's not going to support you or even stay around.
NO man has a right to ask a Mother to choose a man over her own child!!!!!!
For me the decision would be simple, your son.

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