My little 10 year old brother wants a phone, is he old anoth'?

Elizabeth - posted on 04/11/2015 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Hello,

So my little 10 year old brother wants a phone for his 11th birthday which is in a few weeks, is he old anoth'?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/13/2015

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If the parents have put the 21 YO in charge in this scenario "My parents went to a job interview in Germany so they put me in charge of my little brother while they were gone"...and this were MY 21 YO and MY 10/11 YO, I can guarantee that "in charge" doesn't mean Carte Blanche to give little brother everything he whines for. "In Charge" means "my brother is whining about a phone for his birthday, perhaps I'd better CALL MY PARENTS to see what their ultimate decision is in this case, since I'm only the TEMPORARY CAREGIVER".

Dove - posted on 04/13/2015

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Because he isn't her child... and the parents SHOULD have input in all major decisions whether they are present or not. Unless she has legal custody of her brother... the parents input matters. Period. It's been 2 days... I'm sure she could take a few minutes to CALL them and ask what they think and then she wouldn't have to ask a bunch of strangers....

Trisha - posted on 04/13/2015

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We bought my stepson a phone when he was around 11 years old so he could keep in touch with my husbands ex (not his mom, but mom figure for the 7 years prior).
We found that he ended up just using it for texting his friends. He got it taken away after repeatedly not calling us when he arrived at destinations, or answering it when we called.
Ultimately, it ended up being a bill we had to continue to pay, even though it was not getting used.
I would definitely NOT suggest allowing a smartphone. They are expensive, they break, you can't supervise what they do on it. I believe it is a privilege that needs to be earned. Someone who has a phone should be able to pay for the bill.

Michelle - posted on 04/11/2015

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Why would both your parents go away for a job interview without saying when they would return?
That just doesn't make any sense.

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Jodi - posted on 04/15/2015

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You should know where your 10 year old is at all times even without a phone......at this age there should still be supervision.

Susanne - posted on 04/15/2015

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I believe so. I suggest you make him download the iphone app i make my daughter use. It helps me always know where she is in case there is some sort of emergency and she needs my help. You can type in "Current location tracker" on the app store and find it.

Hope this helps!

Susanne

Tammy - posted on 04/13/2015

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Kids want ever thing now but most kids don't take care of the things they have now. But if he is doing good in school and at home. And he takes care of his things at home. Then I might but if he start looking bad i would just take it back. and i would tell him that to but what ever you do good luck

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2015

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I agree about the OP being a child; unless the parents are government secret agents.

Arithelly - posted on 04/13/2015

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God no. My daughters both got theirs when they were twelve, and even then they didn't fully appreciate them. He's in fourth/fifth grade, who does he even have to text? I think we're breeding a spoiled generation, and pretty soon babies are gonna pop out holding iphones.

Dove - posted on 04/13/2015

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Personally I was thinking this was written by a child... and the OP's replies have given me nothing to assume otherwise....

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/13/2015

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Honestly, Jodi, I was wondering the same. There's no way in hell that I'd simply leave my 21 YO 'in charge' of his younger brother without some directives to follow, and contact information...

And what 21 YO would presume to make such a decision without contacting their absent parents?

Jodi - posted on 04/13/2015

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What kind of parent goes to Germany and leaves their minor child with his older sister, but doesn't tell anyone when they will return or give contact details?

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2015

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Maybe you could get an inexpensive month by month phone, rather than a high end phone with a contract. What kind of interview takes more than a few weeks anyway?

Trisha - posted on 04/13/2015

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If she is responsible for the consequences of him having a cell phone, why should that choice not be up to her?

Dove - posted on 04/13/2015

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What the hell do you want to hear? EVERYONE here has either said he doesn't need a phone or you should ask for your parents input... You have wasted 2 days of our time making excuses when YOU came to us for advice. If you don't care what anyone has to say... quit wasting our time and do whatever the heck you want. Otherwise... take our advice and call your parents. That shouldn't be too hard for you to handle if you are capable of caring for a preteen child on your own.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/13/2015

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"in charge of his care". this does not mean that you have the authority to determine whether or not he needs a cell phone. What do your parents say in regards to this request?

Trisha - posted on 04/13/2015

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Seems like a big responsibility for you, but that is really up to your parents and you to come to terms with. When it comes to pretty big decisions like that, I think it is best to err on the side of caution. A phone will add a lot of extra responsibilities to your own load, so I personally would not. Best of luck.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/13/2015

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My parents put me in charge of taking care of him while they are gone in Germany.

Dove - posted on 04/11/2015

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That would really be up to your parents... why don't you ask them? My oldest did get a phone at 10.5, but that is because that is when 'I' needed her to have one as she was entering middle school and i knew there were after school occasions where I would need to be elsewhere w/ her little brother and we needed a way to keep in contact w/ each other. If there is no NEED for him to have a phone at 11... I would say not to get him one just yet.

Michelle - posted on 04/11/2015

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Doesn't mean that you are responsible for his birthday gift.
How old are you and how long are they gone for?

Elizabeth - posted on 04/11/2015

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My parents went to a job interview in Germany so they put me in charge of my little brother while they were gone.

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