Kristina - posted on 07/14/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )
I have a 5 yo step-daughter, who is VERY strong willed and if she doesn't get what she wants, she'll start pouting. When you ask what's wrong, she'll mumble then get really upset and start crying and screaming. The other day she started one in the car with my boyfriend (her dad). Since he had to go to work, he pulled her out of the car to stay home with me. She kicked and hit at him, then made her body extremely rigid - all the time screaming at him. He spanked her, which makes me uneasy (I don't think it helps when she's in such a rage), then I brought her upstairs and put her in her bedroom. I told her when she calmed down she could come out and shut the door. She screamed at me to open her door (seriously demanding it), for 40 minutes!!! When she calmed down, I went in and talked to her and gave her hugs and all of that, but it scares me to have her be so demanding and to act like that when she doesn't get her way. (btw, the fit that day was because she didn't get to wear the shirt she wanted to wear)
How can I prevent these, and is it okay to just leave her alone like that for so long? I worry that when she starts kindergarten next month that this will cause issues in school, too.