my little girl want eat dinner then it is serived to you , what can i do?

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Sharon - posted on 09/20/2009

11,585

12

1315

Stop her snacks before dinner.



If she doesn't eat her dinner - then no dessert.



Wrap up the uneaten meal, put it the fridge and serve it to her later when she asks for a snack.

Talea - posted on 03/22/2011

95

43

13

aahh we went through this with son #3, do not give in to them when they want to eat later on, no dessert without dinner, and do not cave to the meltdown! lol He is now 5 and he knows to eat at the table with us or he doesn't get snack :)

This conversation has been closed to further comments

20 Comments

View replies by

[deleted account]

Your child won't starve through missing the evening meal sometimes. If she won't eat her meal with you in the alotted time, remove the food and all she gets is a glass of milk before bed. Don't keep offering her alternative food or even her un eaten meal if she is already in bed or she will learn to manipulate you through food. It's up to us to teach our kids about good eating.

[deleted account]

Dannielle, I've not had much of a problem in getting my kids to eat unless they are ill, but at times they do like to test our patience and decide to do whatever they can to get out of eating their meals.

Things Dan and I do is not let them leave the table until they have eaten their meal, or a substantial amount of their meal. You can get there and tell her, right, if you eat this much of your food, I will let you go. Sometimes, it can work and you can get a child to eat foods that they cannot stand. It got my kids eating brussel sprouts, broad beans, squash, zucchini and spinach. Now they love them. You just have to make sure you don't give in to them.

At my house, no one is allowed to leave the table till all have finished. I find it is the best method, because even if they don't eat, they have to stay there, they get bored, they then think that eating is at least something to do. They play with their food instead of eating, take it away from them. Then offer it back to them every 5 minutes. If everyone else finishes before them, give those who have finished a snack at the table or a drink. Never let your child have a drink at the table either, not until after their meal, as they will fill up on their drink and not eat (I was bad for this as a child). Try a few methods, do them your way, and see what works.

If you remove a child from the table, they can actually see that as a victory for them. Because they got out of doing something they didn't want to do. Hence why I never allow my kids to go to bed without eating at least half of their meal. I send them from the table on my terms, not theirs and I see them not wanting to eat is their terms for leaving the table.

Although I have done what Pamela Choo does. Sent my two kids to bed, then given them a second chance within 10 minutes to eat their tea again. I have found that method to be successful with my 5 year old, but not my 4 year old. She is stubborn and more than happy to go to bed to get out of ANYTHING!

With some children, the bed method works, others, the threat of serving them the food even once it is a week old works (not that you can really serve that to them, you can only threaten to) and with others, standing at the wall with hands on their heads while everyone else eats and laughs and has a enjoyable time, other children the only thing that works is sitting at the table until EVERYONE else has finished their meals.

Stina - posted on 09/20/2009

1,055

19

108

Cook whatever you want for your family. No seperate meal/short order cook buisness. Give her a plate and don't make a big deal of it. If she doesn't eat, wrap it up and bring it out when she gets hungry later. My dd likes to say she's full and turn right around and ask for something else. She's always testing to see if we'll really make her finish dinner. Sometimes she'll throw it away... Then when she asks for more to eat of somthing else later, I remind her she threw her dinner away instead of eating it so there would be no more tonight. She'll have breakfast in the morning. She doesn't throw her dinner away very often anymore. Girls are very crafty.



Another thing that can help is to make sure her afternoon snack is light and no later than 3:00. After 3:00, don't let her snack on anything else so that she can be sure to be hungry for her nutritious dinner that you put so much work and love into. :-)

Caroline - posted on 09/20/2009

5

29

0

don't give her anything to drink before or during dinner... If that doesn't work, then make her sit there while you all finish up. If she still doesn't eat it, she can't have anything else until she eats that. Give it to her for breakfast too....

Dana - posted on 09/20/2009

74

10

6

My 12 y/o spent almost the first 3 years of her life eating noodles with butter on them for supper EVERY night with fruit and she's fine.

[deleted account]

Many children are picky eaters. When you prepare a meal make sure you always make one dish that you know they like, however, at each meal always insist they take at least one bite of whatever else is being served. But don't make a big deal out of it if they don't like the food. You can always substitute for them such as a bowl of cereal or a simple sandwich but make clear you will not prepare two meals. Make a rule if after the first bite if they don't like it it's ok to push it away but no complaining about the food! And don't argue about desserts or use it as a punishment if they don't eat their meal. Allow them to have a dessert but a nutritious one such as fruit! Keep mealtimes pleasant and don't extend mealtimes as a punishment. Do not discuss food intake in your child's presence or bribe or give rewards to get a child to eat! They need to eat to satisfy their appetite not to please their parent. If the child is an extremely picky eater consider a muti-vitamin. And always make regular visits to the pediatrician to make sure they are gaining adequate weight and not low on Iron.

Gizella - posted on 09/20/2009

13

54

5

I had this problem with my daughter when she was a toddler. She would not want to eat her dinner, what we found was that she was having a really good meal at lunchtime at day care and that if we just offered her a light meal for dinner of things that she really liked, she would normally eat that with no hassles or fights. I have recently put my daughter (who is now 10 and eats everything in sight including her veggies which are usually the first to go) onto a diet advise by our homeopath, and her advise is to make your lunch time meal the main meal of the day as this is when children need most of their energy producing foods and them give them a light snack at dinner time and ensure that they have a healthy balanced breakfast, even if it means waking up 30 minutes early in the morning to do so. Also a lot of kids these days are lacking iron in their diets and this could also cause bad eating habits as the body does not produce the correct enzymes to assist with the digestion of food. My advise to any parent is don't force your kids to eat if they are not hungry, children will never starve themselves if food is available. This doesn't mean that there should not be any discipline or rules, but if they don't like something (once they have tried it at least once) or they are going to cause upheavel at the dinner table and fight you all the way it is just not worth it. Send them to bed or for a time out and eventually the message will be clear. Dinner time should be pleasent and social time for the family, if you turn it into a warzone, your kids will come to see this as a stressfull time when they are always in trouble and you will just have more trouble getting them to eat. And there is nothing wrong with bribery... :-)

Chris - posted on 09/20/2009

3

10

0

both of my children are grown and i have grandchildren. in the grand scheme of life this phase of a childs life will pass and believe me there are a lot more important things to worry about than if your child eats dinner. also, they do eat when they are hungry. my daughter at 3yrs. old ate fruit loops for brkfst, lunch and supper for almost a month. and then she just stopped. she is now 32 and i don't see any lasting bad effects.

Michelle - posted on 09/20/2009

936

32

134

My nine month old daughter eats all her meals with us. She normally gets fruit after her meals and if she doesn't eat the main meal she doesn't get the fruit. You can't force children to eat. Try attempting to get her to eat a set portion of the meal. You choose the amount and she should at least try to eat it. And make her sit at the table even if she's not eating. She then learns that it is time to eat and nothing else at that point. Good luck:o)

Pamela - posted on 09/20/2009

22

2

1

Yes I use my judgment when my daughter was a toddler but now that she's 3, she tries to get away with it. We do not enforce finish your plate strictly to the rule - as Sarah Colville pointed out, sometimes if the dinner is served late, or they are too tired or sick, we let it go. Sometimes I will let her off with a few more spoonful. This is just my method and how it works with my kid and how I judge the situation at hand. Bear in mind that each kid is different so u will have to what works with your kid.

User - posted on 09/20/2009

629

0

83

It depends on how old she is. Some toddlers prefer to graze throughout the day rather than have 3 big meals,as they may digest food better this way. Also, if dinner is too late, they are sometimes too overtired to bother eating much. Please don't make finishing dinner a battleground or withold food as a punishment,as you may be setting up eating related problems later.

Debora - posted on 09/20/2009

206

27

15

my brother had this with his daughter so he told if she did not eat it she`d get it for breakfast ,she did not eat it so .you guessed it heat it for her in morning to which she said but i want cereal he said after you eat what you did not eat last night ,so she ate it and got cereal .it broke her.

Pamela - posted on 09/20/2009

22

2

1

Quoting dannielle:

we not do dessest and if she does not eat i put her to bed with out dinner or i will take her down from the table. i while go and ask if she want her dinner now and that sametimes work


We don't do dessert all the time but as my in laws are French, they have cheese after main meal and my daughter loves cheese. :) 



 



Yes, we also do give our daughter a chance after we sent her off to bed. Usually after 5 or 10 minutes, we would ask her if she now wants to join us to finish her dinner. It always works because she realised that we aren't giving in to her tricks.

Angela - posted on 09/20/2009

17

41

0

I AGREE WITH SHARON MY DAUGHTER USED TO DO THAT YOU HAVE TO SHOW HER THAT WHEN ITS DINNER TIME YOU EAT OR GET NOTHING NO SNACK NO MOVIES NO NOTHING UNTIL YOU EAT!

Dannielle - posted on 09/20/2009

8

36

0

we not do dessest and if she does not eat i put her to bed with out dinner or i will take her down from the table. i while go and ask if she want her dinner now and that sametimes work

Dannielle - posted on 09/20/2009

8

36

0

She does have snacks before tea. but when it is just her and me she will eat all of her tea. i have to perth with my family

Pamela - posted on 09/20/2009

22

2

1

My little girl eats dinner with us. She went thru a stage where she is curious about our food on our plate even though it is same as hers. We let her have a bite of it to show her that what she's having is the same as ours. After a bite, she's satisfied and happily eat her food on her plate.

However if she refused to finish her food, then she won't have any dessert nor will she gets anything later if she is hungry - she will finish her meal once she realised that she's not getting dessert while the rest are. And if she says she is too tired to finish dinner, then we sent her to bed straight away - that usually gets her to finish her meal.

Chasity - posted on 09/20/2009

180

23

14

My daughter is 3 and she does the same thing, but she doesnt have a snake after lunch cause lunch for us is 1 and its a fullfilling lunch, she will not want to eat supper at 6 and just keep telling her to eat, I have found sending her to bed without supper works. My daughter knows now that she will eat what is given to her and that it needs to be eaten then or she will have to wait till breakfest.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms