My lovely daughter has said she is transsexual and I finding it impossible to cope with. She was a really feminine little girl who only wore dresses and liked to play with barbies and polly pockets. Can you help me get over the shame and embarrasment I feel?

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Mw - posted on 09/19/2012

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not to be harsh, but i think you have to think less of your own feelings and future hopes, and more about your daughter's concerns right now. i'd guess that she has had a very difficult time coming to grips with her sexuality/gender/identity, and will have further obstacles to overcome in her transition. this is likely a time when she'll feel isolated and need the love and support of her family the most.

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Meg - posted on 09/15/2012

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She's 19 and has started binding her chest. I suppose I really don't understand how she can go from being the girliest of girls to cutting her hair in a "boy" cut and wanting surgery to change her sex.



The relationship a mom has with her daughter is so different from that with a son, and I am just really really sad that all the hopes I had for our future relationship have gone

Mw - posted on 09/14/2012

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how old is she? it's completely normal for kids to 'experiment' with traditional gender lines (tomboys, boys painting nails, etc.). i don't think this is anything to worry about and certainly nothing to be EMBARRASSED about. even if it's not an 'experiment' i think so long as your daughter is healthy, happy, and feels loved and supported by her family, she'll be fine.

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