Ashley Nicole - posted on 02/04/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My marriage is in trouble, my husband doesn’t want to talk to me and doesn’t support my choices to go to school.
I have been married to my husband for 8 years and we have been together for 10 years. We have two beautiful children our son Caden who is 8 and our daughter Michalea who is 5. I am on my 4th year of school to obtain my bachelors in psychology, I only have 6 classes left and I am set to graduate in September. He is an electrician and has been for 10+ years. This past 6 months has been taxing. He has been increasingly mean about me going to school but I think it may be the one thing he can insult me with and he knows that it hurts me. Here lately he has had shorter hours at work due to the weather, so hes been at home a little more. When he’s at home he never talks to me whether the conversation is why is the sky blue to what interesting things our kids are doing. I will talk to him until I am blue in the face and I never get anything more than an “I don’t know” to everything, because its easier to say idk because that means you don’t want to put any effort in the conversation.
Well back to the school issue he has been recently telling me that I am selfish for going to school because I take time away from him! I go to school online and work on it during the day and at night, usually 3-4 days out of the week during the day while the kids re gone and 2-3 days during the night when he is home. I am only 26 I got pregnant with my son when I was 17 and had him when I was 18 and he has high functioning autism, and ADHD and many other various medical conditions and our daughter has ADD. We have had a lot more complications than most homes with two children having to juggle IEP’s and constant school visits, dr visits and such also neither of my children are medicated for their attention disorders, so our house is a little louder than most. Also let me add that my husband has ADHD and was medicated for most his school aged years. I came from a horrible background with two drug addicted parents, my dad was in and out of jail and still has an addiction problem my mom has been recovered for about 3-4 years now, and I have also spend some of my childhood years in foster homes. Needless to say I have been through hell! To almost have my bachelors degree from the background I come from is huge and I feel like he should be proud of me! Instead he throws in my face that I should have gone to school sooner, I would have but my son was so sick the first few years of his life I couldn’t go 3 weeks without going to the dr or hospital and he just recently was hospitalized for a week about 2 months ago for medical issues. We have been through so much!
Back to more recent issues when he’s home he’s usually standing near our French doors waiting for his friends that live across the street to walk outside, He’s constantly playing on his phone, and he’s just not here mentally. I will say he’s usually a sweet man, he is a good father, we never get violent or call each other names but I am so lonely! I feel like he is there more for his friends than he is for our family. He is always at their becking call, and with me and the kids its just like were last on his list. I was just writing I wanted to talk to other mommies out there and this is my first time writing, any advice would be great!