My mil is driving me crazy

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Michelle - posted on 01/27/2015

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Don't tell people they are assuming when they don't know the whole story because you haven't told us!
Why do you have to bring your child around there everyday? You have your own life and you don't HAVE to do what you don't want to do. If she wants to see her grandchild then she can come to you, simple.
You also need to talk to your husband like Trisha has said, he needs to let his Mother know that you 3 are your own family now and don't need her "advice" all the time. If he still wants to have his Mother around everyday then maybe you should tell him to move back in with her.
He sound like a Mother's boy and if he doesn't want to cut the apron strings then you can't change him. He's your husband now, not her little boy.

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Free day care ? No she's not looking after my child.
For a person who does not know how to change diaper how is she able to look after my child? I have to bring my child over her place to let her see n play with my child everyday.
I'm full time hands on my child and Doing everything by myself .my child is growing up well and healthy! I can handle my child but she keeps interfering with my parenting.
For someone who thinks mother's breastmilk is not good for the child and keep insisting on feeding the child formula milk?
I handle my child's food everyday yet she still want to feed my child junk after I fed my child? Going against me when I say no?
So is this good parenting of hers? Should I be grateful to her feeding my child junk food with full of msg?
Don't assume . My parents raised me up well enough to know whom I should be grateful to.

Trisha - posted on 01/26/2015

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You seem to have a lot to complain about a person who seems to be there for you, trying to help you out.
I am assuming you are getting some sort of free daycare from your MIL?
You don't seem very grateful. The act of being late to pick up your child from your MILs is disrespectful. Sounds like your MIL is not just having to mother your child, but also you.
If she needs to watch your child, and you are online complaining about your MIL not raising your child right, perhaps you need to re-evaluate how you are acting, and changing your behavior to make the relationship better.
If you don't want your child exposed to that environment/junk food etc, than YOU need to do the extra work and ensure that there are ready to go snacks and foods ready for your child, so your MIL doesn't have to do any work to support the diet you want your child to eat.

Trisha - posted on 01/23/2015

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...Your husband and you will the the cause if your marriage fails Almost everyone has problems with their MIL.
Your communication with your husband needs to be addressed.
Your husband and you are the ones in the marriage. It is your responsibility to keep it together, not your MIL.
Though I understand your frustration - my Mom drives me crazy myself. I will stand up to her though. It causes a lot of stress. I have needed to tell her that she needs to respect my choices, or any chance for a healthy relationship will feel. You have the right to feel comfortable in your home, so can ask her to leave until she respects your wishes.
Ultimately: She is just concerned about the health of the baby. She has done this before, and your husband survived. So as far as she is concerned, she knows how to do it right.

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