my monster-in-law bribes my son for love

Jessica - posted on 11/03/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My mother-in-law bribes my son. I know what your thinking! We all bribe I kids for good behaviour and so on... but never for love in return. she is emotionally abusive. I see what she has done to her sons and I don't want my son to grow up this way. She has even threatened my husband... saying she will "disown" him. Normally is she doesn't get what she wants or doesn't get her way. I can see her doing the same thing to my son. This concerns me. I don't know what to do. We live with my in-laws due to financial problems. PLEASE HELP!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/03/2014

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Well, the only way to stop her from having access is to move out and change accounts.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/03/2014

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First of all, whoever made the decision to allow her access to your personal funds needs to be flogged.

Move out. If inlaws cannot support themselves, they'll need to figure out how to do so without expecting their kids to provide.

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Jessica - posted on 11/03/2014

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Person to be flogged would be my wonderful husband and father-in-law as they have allowed her to be a signer on all of their accounts.....

Jessica - posted on 11/03/2014

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Thank you.
Well we only having this financial problem because we support them. So we can't afford to move out. We were building a cottage in the back yard for us to live in. But she decided to spend $40,000 of the bond money we were building with. Now we don't have the money to finish building. So my two year old son shares a bed/ bedroom with us because we're to busy supporting my thefting mother-in-law.

Guest - posted on 11/03/2014

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How do you bribe a kid for love in return? Is she giving him candy and saying, "Okay, I give you candy, you must love me now..." You can't make someone love you. They can be grateful for what you give them, but you can't even MAKE them do that. She could give him all the candy, toys, and whatever else in the world, but he is the one to decide whether he wants to be grateful for the crap, or whether he wants to love her, and decide WHY he wants to love her.

Lots of people try to do it though. I have a friend who I know loves me to death, but he just doesn't get that I'll still love him even if he stops buying me crap. His parents showed him that the best way to express love was to buy the person stuff they want, so now, that's the only way he knows how to do it. I don't care, I just donate it or whatever and accept the fact that he doesn't know any other way. Maybe mom in law is like that?

She's letting you live with her, she can't be all bad. I wouldn't let my grown-up kid bring his wife and kid to live with me....but maybe she thinks holding you up financially is a way to show that she loves you??

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