Michelle - posted on 06/30/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
Ok so, my first time here. I'm not a new mom. I'm 49 & have 2 daughters (22 & 16) & 1 son (20). I have amazing kids. All of them!! My 2 oldest are in JR & SR years at University & my youngest is a JR in high school. My son was dx with ADHD (mild, not out of control) when 5. ADHD boys are a handful but in my case, it was more learning difficulties & compulsivity. As far back as I remember, my mom has had an obvious "dislike" towards my son, while obvious "typical grandma" attitudes w my girls. Now that he's older, he feels it, knows it & even though he handles it as best as he can.. My heart is broken. ** Newer moms - no matter their age, your babies will always be your babies... No matter their age. You will most likely always have that momma bear protecting her young mentality.
I guess what I'm looking for here, is advice from anyone going through similar situations. My mom (due to partial disability) has been living with me for several months. It's like the perfect storm in my house right now. Not to mention, causing significant issues between myself & mom. I call her out when she is treating my son with contempt. I try to get her to "see" the behavior so that she can try to correct. She says she loves my son & I know she does... However, loving & liking are worlds different. My son tries hard to do things for approval but he's tired. I'm tired!! His sisters see this same behavior & feel horrible for their brother & they are also TIRED!! (By the way, forgot to mention, my husband/kids daddy passed away 9 years ago at 41, line of duty firefighter death). Not sure if that is relevant but does explain how alone I feel in dealing with these issues.
Ok so, I know this was a novel in social media world. However, a readers digest version of the issues. Anyone else out there have similar situations??