my mother-in-law is driving me insane!

Amy - posted on 02/19/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Any of you moms out there have issues with your mother-in-law (she isn't my mother-in-law yet, but still..)?? We live about 20 minutes away from my boyfriends mother who ALWAYS wants to see our son (my parents/family all live states away from us--about a 15 hour drive to visit so they've never been here to visit me or meet my boyfriend or son since I moved here 3 years ago). As far as his mother is concerned, I'm telling you she would move in with us if we allowed it---she is OBSESSED with our son. She would drive here everyday to see him if we let her, she would have us visit every day if we wanted to drive that far and she would have us sleepover every weekend. She will not back off and give us space!

Now, I am going to say her not backing off is partly due to the fact that my boyfriend thinks it's her right to see her grandchild whenever she wants and he has a very close relationship with his mom and he thinks it's perfectly okay for her to visit at least once a week or us go visit her when we have time every weekend. My boyfriend only has weekends off, so I prefer to have our weekends reserved for OUR FAMILY time because we don't get much time together otherwise. I'm not trying to drive around and go places (particularly not to his mom's) and spend our time together at his mother's house...it's ridiculous! I love to go places with our son, but it's like every time we leave we inevitably end up at his mom's house (so I try my hardest to avoid leaving the house on weekends)!!!

Finally, a few weeks ago I told him how I was feeling---that I was annoyed that she text me all the time, always asked how HER boy was doing (umm, that's MY son), would ask if she could stop by, blah blah blah. And she's still coming up with reasons for us to come over--- for example: she'll say my boyfriend has mail at her house that he needs to pick up or her mom (my bf's gramma) made something for our son that we need to pick and so on and so on.... it's always some excuse to bring our son over. I AM SOOOOO SICK OF IT. And the other day, my bf said that his mom told him that his gramma had made something for our son (an excuse to get us over there---because in all reality there are things called post offices and mailboxes and it could just be sent in the mail!!), so, he said we'll have to go get it this weekend. Well my bf had to leave work early yesterday to take us to our son's dr appointment and before he came home he called me and told me he had to run a few errands and then stop at his mom's to pick up some mail that was there. Well, he could have also picked up the present from his gramma, but of course he didn't. So I mentioned it when he got home and said "hey you should've grabbed that present from your gramma while you were at your mom's" and he said "oh I wasn't even thinking about it". Then he says, "well, we still would've had to go over there this weekend even if I had remembered to grab it..." I asked him why and he said because his mom wants to see her grandchild. OH FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!!! She does not need to see him everyday of her life!!!! She has her own life, we have our own life and she needs to realize that!! Back off lady!! If we feel like visiting or having her over for a short while, then fine. But this whole arranging things so there's a 'reason' for us to go over to her house is getting out of control. How have you moms dealt with a crazy/obsessive/overbearing/invasive mother-in-law (or mother or any other family member who is waaaay too involved in your life)??? Please give me some advice because seriously anything to do with her now just makes me soooo angry. And I'm sorry, but she is NOT entitled to have to see her grandson a specific amount of times per week or month, so she can get over it. I'm not going to back off and pretend like I'm happy to go over there every time she requests or presence because my boyfriends mother can't bear to go more than 5 hours without seeing our child.

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Alyssa - posted on 01/27/2016

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Hi Amy

I know this is an old post of yours but i would like to let you know anyway what i think of your complaint.

i know exactly how you feel. i go through the same things you went through. My fiance is also a "mama's boy".

We live about 5 min away from my inlaws and they pretty much abuse that short distance...they show up unannounced majority of the time, especially my sister inlaw and her partner. They LOVE coming saturday mornings when I am busy cleaning, to visit. not to "pop in" but to visit. Which i HATE!

Firstly, because i was raised differently. My mom taught me that it is rude to show up unannounced at peoples houses (every time) and also to visit in the morning, week nights and sunday afternoon at lunch time.

if it happens occasionally I dont think i would mind. but the fact that it happens every time, annoys the shit out of me.

His mother always suggests how she thinks we should do things, (which i dont mind) but throws her toys out of the cot if we DON'T do things the way she suggested. which again, annoys the shit out of me.

When my baby was born, she suggested that I give my baby formula in a bottle because she doesn't think the baby gets enough milk from my breast's. She even asked me if she could suck my breast to see how much milk comes out. (I obviously made it clear to her that she is effing crazy and not to come near my boob!!!!)

When i started feeding my baby I told them all (all grandparents) that i do not want my baby to eat bottled foods, that I will cook fresh veggies for her, my inlaws still went and bought my kid bottled purity foods behind my back and gave it to her.

They demanded that they need to see our baby every weekend (Saturday and Sunday)

So, i totally get what you what you saying about you guys only having weekends as "Family" time. during the week, your schedule is so busy. You get home from work, cook, tidy up, eat, tidy up and get kiddo ready for bed. and everyone is asleep by 9pm. So... you only have weekends to really spend QT with your man and kid.

well i have learned to be the bad person and deal with it.

each Grand parent see's our grand child every second weekend. so one weekend his parents, one weekend my parents and the next weekend is OUR weekend. meaning NO grand parents, No aunties and uncles. Just us 3!

That is my rule i created and if someone tries to break that rule, I take my kid, get in my car and go "window shopping" the whole day. I take her out for ice cream and games and whatever to keep her busy so that my man can spend QT with his parents and sibling.

I have become so hard that I dont care If they dont like what i do. Your rules are your rules. Boundaries are boundaries. they need to learn to respect that and they need to learn to let their son go and build his life with his new family. He doesnt need to cut them out totally, but he needs to know that there are boundaries.

lay the rules down with your man and his mom, and if he does not stand by you or support you, leave him.

you will never be happy, things will never change and you will be unhappy and bitter until this woman dies.

yes its good to have a grandmother that loves your child so much, but if she loves her son and his partner too...she would respect you guys enough to give you space to enjoy your own lives. I promise you if she gave you that respect and space, you would not feel so bitter towards her.

I have a long list of things my inlaws did that pissed me off, but i forgave but did not forget. I put my foot down now and if someone doesnt like it, TOUGH SHIT!

not everyone will understand what you go through until they are actually in your situation. it may sound like you are exaggerating but hunny, I know it can feel like you are in hell!

put an end to it or live with it for the rest of your life!

good luck and I am glad to know I am not the only crazy b*tch going through this crap!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/19/2014

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Amy, since we’ve got a system going here…I’ll respond by number, without the whole copy/paste the quote :-P And, you don't sound crazy, but you do sound fairly young...not that it's a bad thing, I promise!

1) Actually, I’ve been married to my hubby for 24 years this year, together for over 25, and he and his mom speak/text at least 4 times a week, and email daily. MIL spends at least one week a month with us, as she currently lives about 3 hours away, but when she moves closer, she’ll be over daily. I absolutely love that he & his mom are that close, and that she’s continued to be very involved with us, and our kids. I don’t see it as a problem, because if he’s that close with his mom, he’s learned how to take good care of women, and it shows in the attention and care that he gives me. So, to me, its still not excessive contact.
2) No, I don’t think it’s a bit much, especially if it’s only a few minutes each way. If it were a huge distance, that would be different, but dropping in for an hour on a Saturday isn’t that much of a detraction from the rest of the weekend.
3) He’s actually got more evening time with his family than Hubby & I had at that stage. My hubby left at 4:30 am, did not return home in the evening until 8 pm (if roads were passable). Kiddos were usually ready for bed by then. Sometimes they wouldn’t see their dad for a day or two due to that schedule. And, I was fairly protective of family time as well, but since my MIL IS family…his mother, after all…She doesn’t get excluded if she’s here. And, as far as her wanting to hold the baby…he’s her grandchild, geesh, she should get to hold him. Since you are adamant about limiting what time she does get to spend with him, I’m not surprised that she hangs on to what she can.
4) A lot of grandparents that I know, including my own, refer to their grandchildren as “my boy” or “my girl”. Its really not a big deal. They ARE Grandma’s boy, or Grandma’s girl, in an affectionate “these are my grandkids” type of way.
5) Its good that you realize that you don’t have to go every time he wants to visit with his mom, and take the baby. That indicates that you’re starting to relax.
6) Again, having a lot of people in your kid’s life that love him isn’t too much. What you seem to want is for your MIL to only be allowed to visit once a year…maybe twice, but only if it’s for a day each of those times, and that she should be happy that you’re making the concession to allow that much time…I really hate to say this, but you are being slightly unreasonable. The woman is not at your home every hour, every day, every other day, or even every 3rd. She’s asked her son to bring the baby around once a week. If my mom had been that loving towards my kids, I’d have been over the moon.
7) You need to relax. You have a wonderful asset in this woman. You are being unreasonably jealous of who your child spends time with, but the reality of the situation is that she’s not being overbearing, she’s not being pushy (showing up at all hours on your doorstep would be pushy). She’s interested in her grandchild, a child of HER child, and she’s concerned about his development, etc, just as she will be with her son’s next kid, and the next…because they’re HER family too. Asking for pictures of your grandchildren is not unreasonable. You should be ecstatic to SHARE! The child is not 100% your possession. It’s a human being, with needs, and feelings. The more people willing to meet those needs, and address those feelings, the better off the kid is in the long run. She is not making parenting decisions, she’s not pushing off her ideas of childrearing as being ‘gospel’, she’s not really interfering at all. She just wants the chance to know and interact with her grandchild.
Having said all of that, I’m concerned that you may be feeling that you’re the picked on party. You may want to look into some counseling to help you address these feelings about your mother in law, and your feelings about extended family in general.
I am getting a feeling that a lot of these feelings of yours stem from the lack of frequent contact with your own family…is that why you feel that his family members should be limited to contact once every 2-3 months (or less)?

Amy - posted on 02/20/2014

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Well, I'll be 28 next month.

1. And wow, that is a lot of interaction between your husband and his mother....it really doesn't bother you? Do you also have that much interaction with her? Do you guys text/call on a regular basis? Is he telling her what's going on in your guys' lives ? That's what my bf and his mom do---they talk about things that I feel are none of her business. For example, something new the baby did...we're moving in a couple months and he felt it was necessary to tell her when we went to look at apts and what we thought of them (that's none of her business--he can tell her we're moving and that's that--she doesn't need to know all the fine details)....how his work day was...how the weather is... i mean seriously, if she doesn't know how many times he went to the bathroom everyday it's like it's the end of the world for her.

2. But the thing is, is that it's never just 'an hour'. It turns into an entire afternoon affair and I'm not trying to spend that much of our weekend over there.

3. Wow, really? That is a long time for him to be gone. And as far as the holding, sure a little bit is fine, but not the entire time she's at our house or the entire time we're at her house. Once again, space please. Let me take care of my child.

4. Yeah I suppose...I just take it the wrong way. But it really annoys me.

5. Well, trust me, I would prefer to go so my bf doesn't get sidetracked and chatty and end up staying there all afternoon, but I don't feel like seeing his mom (and stepdad) hold my baby like the world is going to end the next day and me not getting a chance to take care of my son like I do when we're all home.

6. I would just prefer that she stops asking to visit...stop asking us to come over...stop saying 'oh i haven't seen my grandson in 2 weeks you guys should come over for dinner'...stop coming up with excuses to see our son (i.e. 'oh you have mail here you need to come pick up---hey why don't you bring my grandson with so i can see him?')... we will come over when we feel like it/when we have time--whether that's once a week, once a month, once a year. It isn't her choice as to when she gets to see our son....i'm sorry but she doesn't dictate our lives as far as our son is concerned in any way, shape or form. She needs to understand that her son, her grandson and I have lives that revolve outside of her wants and needs. You really don't think once a week is too often? I would like us to have time to ourselves---I really don't want to spend any part of our weekends at his mother's house....

7. I just feel like she is way too involved in everything. too involved in her son's life, too involved in her grandson's life, wanting to know too much about what we're doing in our lives and so on. If I/we want her to know something, then we'll tell her, but meanwhile she just needs to back off of our entire family. give us space. if we want to contact you, we will. however, unfortunately this isn't how it is or will ever be because my boyfriend communicates with her everyday---i have asked him to stop calling/texting her in front of me because i don't want to hear these hour long conversations that start the second he gets home (sorry, that's family time--which we don't get much of). it really isn't that I don't like her....she just needs to occupy her time with things other than her obsession with our son.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/27/2016

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In response to Rina ( or whatever your name is...you couldn't be bothered to get mine right...)

You have no idea how our including my MIL in our lives has enriched it, so stop assuming shit that you have no clue about.

Have YOU been married for 26 years? Well, I HAVE. It is an awesome relationship that gets better every day! Oh, and since this original post, my MIL has moved even closer, so we get the blessing of having even MORE quality family time. Granted, my kids are now adults, but that just means that they can enjoy more time with their grandmother on an adult level.

Stop being an ass. Just because YOUR relationship with your MIL sucks doesn't mean we are all that immature!

Smita - posted on 10/27/2016

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thanks Alyssa good advice, I'm the same situation as you and still to yet be the 'bad guy' and set some boundaries . As well as his mother however I have his 3 sisters who want to constantly have my baby girls photos and set them on their phones computers etc. none of them have ever tried to have a relationship with me in 8 years and my husband is made aware of everything but prefers to sit on the fence.

I'm enjoying mother hood but not all the in laws baggage which comes with it.

My own mother pulled the whole formula feeding trick saying my milk wasn't enough and only she wanted to do the feeds but I had to put a stop to that after 6 weeks!

Try to think of the positive and I know it's hard to protect our children but I would rather that and be happy then everyone walk all over me now .

Raina - posted on 10/18/2016

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Amy, you have every right to feel this way without a doubt.. You, your boyfriend and you child need quality family time, IMMEDIATE family only. Do not take advice from Shawna (commented below) as her relationship with her MIL of texting, calling, & visiting daily is not common and can interfere with intimacy with your spouse or quality time with your immediate family. Of course you should always be respectful of your MIL and never talk negatively about her; however, it is very important she knows your family needs alone time. Out of respect for you, she needs to call first before coming over and you or your boyfriend need to communicate this with her outright. Be straightforward and respectful, but make sure she "gets it" because some MIL's think very selfishly and don't understand the concept of privacy and respect. If your MIL continues with this & doesn't respect your wishes, this will cause a strain on your relationship with your bf. In my opinion, seeing your MIL 2-3 times a month is PLENTY! And, if she calls or texts too often for your preference, it is your choice to answer her calls or text back. If you choose not to communicate but maybe once weekly, that is okay and don't feel bad! Good luck to you. :-)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/20/2014

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1) No, I don’t mind a bit! Actually, I’m in more frequent contact with her. She & I either speak, text, or email each other daily. And, yes we share pretty much everything. I look to her for advice, as a shoulder or a vent, well…pretty much anything. I can talk to her about problems with my husband’s disability, meds, etc, no holds barred. I absolutely love it.
a. You ask if my hubby tells MIL everything…No, but I do! Well, pretty much, anyway…she doesn’t care about how many times we have sex…LOL
b. You mention that he tells her ‘everything’ such as something new the baby’s done…again, that’s a sharing situation.
c. And about the ‘if we move, he tells her when we went to look at apts’…again, not a huge breach of national security. Some people need to ‘vent’ to alleviate stress. Apartment hunting, for example, can be stressful, and talking to an uninvolved party can help alleviate that.
2) Ok, then maybe its time for the weekend time to be scheduled, and consistent. Maybe he and his mom and the baby can meet for lunch, and she can spend time with the grandchild. You can use that time as your ‘me time’, and treat yourself to a quiet few hours.
3) I can see you’re not understanding where I’m going with the holding of the kid. It’s NOT a huge deal. She’s not ruining him, or spoiling him, and as I said before, she sees that you are not comfortable with her being involved, so she clings to whatever little time you will grant her. If you’d quit making such a big deal of it, I bet the situation would resolve itself, in time. And, in time, kiddo will be too big for her to hold for long. Babies stay small and cuddly for such a short time, it’s a shame that you can’t allow your MIL to share in that special time with the family in general. And, having raised my own, I can guarantee that she’s not interfering with your ability to care for the child in any way, shape, or form. Heck, she may even change a diaper whilst she’s got the baby, giving you a brief respite from that parental chore.
4) You need to stop letting it bother you.
5) Again, they are in no way ‘interfering’ with your ability to care for the child. You are stuck on that. If they are, please tell me exactly HOW them holding the child while they’re being granted their visitation is interfering with your ability to take care of the child? Most parents love to have their parents (grandma & grandpa) involved with their kids. Your boyfriend seems to enjoy having his folks involved. You are the one getting overly stressed out about things that are NOT that big a deal. I have to ask, were the situation reversed, if you’d have the same reaction to your mother doing the same things his mother is?
6) Would you like to know why she’s that way? It’s because she knows in her heart, that if you were given your choice, you’d never allow her to see that child at all. And, as the child’s biological grandparent, she does have a vested interest, as her SON is the child’s father. You’ve given her every indication that you would rather she fell off the face of the earth, than allow her to spend one iota of time over 1 second every 2 years with her grandchild. No wonder she pushes her son to bring him over. She’s afraid that if she doesn’t, you’d go years without contact.
7) You feel that she’s ‘way too involved’, but obviously your boyfriend (her son) does not. You state ‘if we want to tell her something, we will’. Quite obviously your boyfriend DOES want his mother involved at this level, and really, as I’ve repeatedly stated, this level is NOT THAT INTRUSIVE! Not until you blow it into a huge deal every single time she calls/stops by/texts.
Since I’ve done nothing but continue to repeat myself, please re-read the conversations. I’m not saying that you don’t have 50% say in how your kid is raised, but your boyfriend also has the same say. If you two cannot come to a compromise, you’re going to show your kid that arguing over family is OK…and it’s really not. If you cannot overcome these feelings, you may want to speak with a counselor.

Amy - posted on 02/19/2014

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Shawnn-I appreciate your feedback...I know I probably sound like a crazy person, but her involvement in our son's life and in our family's life in general is just too much for me. I would love to feel better about it, so I'm totally open to suggestions.

1. I'm not saying it isn't 'normal', I'm just saying it's a bit much. And it's really hard to explain to someone who isn't in our situation, but very quickly--my bf & his mom are & have been super close his whole life. I've come to see just how close in this past year----they text all the time, call all the time, he'll call her for any sort of question he doesn't know the answer to, she'll call just to say hi (but it's never just a quick 'hi'..it always turns into what each of them did every minute since the last time they spoke. it's just too much---and she doesn't think things should or will change since he has a family now. umm, sorry mother-in-law but he's got a gf, a son and a family of his own...so give us space! i'm not saying never see your son or grandchild, but just once in awhile...here and there...not every week or more.

2. you don't think once a week is too much??? yikes. i don't want to spend a part of our weekend EVERY weekend going to see her just because heaven forbid she doesn't see her grandson 'enough'.

3. My bf goes to work at 5am and doesn't get home until 6pm. Once he gets home, he showers, eats dinner, plays with our son depending on when he's awake, then it's bathtime and all of 3 of us are sleeping by 9pm. So, doesn't really leave much 'us time' or any time for conversation. So yep, weekends are our family time together and that's super important to me that we have that. He hardly sees me or his son during the week. And sure, if we stopped by and it was just a quick 'hello we were in the neighborhood' and we're there for about 30 min I might feel a bit better about it, but that's not the case. We always end up being there for several hours because she will not put our child down! she holds him the entire time and I have hardly any interaction with him. give me my baby! geesh.

4. Well, with how it is right now my someday mother-in-law might as well have popped our child out herself!

5. No, i'm not forced to go along. However, I choose to go because if I don't I know they're just going to get caught up talking because they both love talking to each other and just people in general and he'll end up keeping our son there for like the entire afternoon! That's too long. But, this weekend I'm not going with so it will just be my bf and son going to see her but I'm going to ask my bf to make sure they aren't there for a long time.

6. I really feel like it's so unreasonable, I really do! I think every day is too much, I think every week is too much---like, maybe once a month but I think that's even too much. I just feel like she's being so greedy. And once again, needs to back off.

7. Well, in this case I could say once a day, every 2 hours, every 5 hours, 3 times a week....doesn't really matter. If it were up to me I'd say we'd only go over there once in a great while. Like once every 2-3 months. I really don't dislike her---we had a really good relationship at first then (for my taste) she just became too involved and she wanted photos of our son all the time and was always asking how he was, etc, etc and I just got fed up with it.

I really want to feel better about this, but I cannot handle this much involvement from his mother...I don't even want that kind of involvement from my own mother!! It's not that it's his mother because if my mother lived nearby as well, it'd be the same with her. We have a family and a life of our own. My mom has her life and my boyfriend's mom has her life. Ugghhh...and there are several different occasions coming up where my boyfriend wants to go do 'adult' activities and that will mean leaving our son with his mother---I know he'll be pretty bummed if we don't go do these things and get out of the house, but the only way we can go do these things is if his mother babysits our son. Not looking forward to it... :/

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/19/2014

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“We live about 20 minutes away from my boyfriends mother who ALWAYS wants to see our son (my parents/family all live states away from us--about a 15 hour drive to visit so they've never been here to visit me or meet my boyfriend or son since I moved here 3 years ago).” ~~So, because you aren’t near your parents, you don’t think it’s ‘normal’ for a grandparent to want to see her grandchild? Not to mention her own son…? Not realistic, really

“my boyfriend thinks it's her right to see her grandchild whenever she wants and he has a very close relationship with his mom and he thinks it's perfectly okay for her to visit at least once a week or us go visit her when we have time every weekend”~~Whenever she wants is a bit much, but at least once a week isn’t overstepping bounds…If he wants his mother to have a close relationship with his children, that shouldn’t be a big deal. Kids cannot have enough love in their lives

“I prefer to have our weekends reserved for OUR FAMILY time because we don't get much time together otherwise. I'm not trying to drive around and go places (particularly not to his mom's) and spend our time together at his mother's house...it's ridiculous”~~So, your partner is ONLY in the home on the weekends? No nights, no afternoons, no early mornings (in other words, does he work 5 days in another location away from you, and then only have 2 days at home, or is it a ‘normal’ go to work in the morning, come home in the evening and have weekends off deal) From the sounds of it, if mom is only a few minutes away, its not taking great gulping chunks out of your weekend to stop in at grandmas for a few minutes. Not really. If it were a 3 hour, one way drive, and he wanted to do it every weekend, that would be a bit much, but to stop by mom’s when she lives in the same area? That’s quite easy to do without ‘ruining’ the rest of your weekend.

“that I was annoyed that she text me all the time, always asked how HER boy was doing (umm, that's MY son),”~~And HER grandson…so…

“And she's still coming up with reasons for us to come over--- for example: she'll say my boyfriend has mail at her house that he needs to pick up or her mom (my bf's gramma) made something for our son that we need to pick and so on and so on.... it's always some excuse to bring our son over. I AM SOOOOO SICK OF IT.”~~Are you being FORCED to go along? I’m certain that your partner is capable of bringing his son to his mother’s on his own, without you being forced into a situation that you aren’t comfortable in…

“Then he says, "well, we still would've had to go over there this weekend even if I had remembered to grab it..." I asked him why and he said because his mom wants to see her grandchild. OH FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!!! She does not need to see him everyday of her life!!!!”~~ Um, honey, you do realize that seeing someone once a WEEK is different than EVERY DAY OF HER LIFE, right??? Calm down. She’s not making requests that are THAT UNREASONABLE!!! Some grandparents could care less about their grandkids, to the point of being callously unloving.

“She has her own life, we have our own life and she needs to realize that!! Back off lady!! If we feel like visiting or having her over for a short while, then fine. But this whole arranging things so there's a 'reason' for us to go over to her house is getting out of control”~~Perhaps she feels that, if she waits for you to “feel like” visiting, she’ll never ever get to know her grandchild. Yes, you each have your own lives. Her asking her son to bring the kid over once a week isn’t THAT MUCH, in the grand scheme of things. You’ve quite obviously made it quite plain to her that you dislike her, you distrust her, and you don’t want your kid around her, so I’m not surprised that she’s making arrangements with your partner (her son) so that HE can still allow her to be involved.

“And I'm sorry, but she is NOT entitled to have to see her grandson a specific amount of times per week or month, so she can get over it. I'm not going to back off and pretend like I'm happy to go over there every time she requests or presence because my boyfriends mother can't bear to go more than 5 hours without seeing our child.”~~Good grief, girl, if you stress this much about the child’s paternal grandmother, you’ll be dead before you hit 40. You’re exaggerating…in a big way…because you stated at the beginning of your post that grandma wanted to see baby once a week…now, by the end of your post, she’s demanding to see baby every 5 hours…LOL…

Your child is fortunate to have extended family that loves him so much. Hopefully you’ll be able to mature a little, stress less, and realize that you’re being a bit overboard about your child’s grandmother. If your partner was taking his son to visit his ex girlfriend, I could understand a reaction of this type, but the child’s own grandmother? Wow.

Counseling may be a good idea, because this is not starting well for you…

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