Kimberly - posted on 09/30/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )
I live in a small one-bedroom flat in London with my husband and 13 month old daughter. My in-laws live 15 minutes down the road in a 4 bedroom semi-detached (and it's just the two of them) So as our daughter has gotten older they have offered (reluctantly) to store all her old items (the baby swing she grew out of, her infant car seat, her massive buggy travel system, etc) at their house as we've barely got enough room here to move, let alone store all these items. About a month ago my sister-in-law announced that she was pregnant with her first baby and straight away my mother-in-law was offering her my daughter's things! All the major things we bought for our daughter (buggy, swings, etc) we bought in neutral colors with the intention of using them for future children, so we're not finished using them yet. My husband was talking to his mom the other day and she said, "I've told Clare (SIL) she should look at your buggy and see if she wants it" My husband replied, "We'd like to keep it for the next baby" To which she said, "But that won't be for a couple years..."
I really don't know how to handle this situation. My sister-in-law and her husband are in their early 30's while my husband and I are in our mid-20's and we paid for everything for our daughter. We bought her car seat for my in-laws car (we don't even have a car!) and we bought a travel cot for her to sleep in when we're over at their house. I just don't understand why my mother-in-law thinks it's okay to just offer these items to my sister-in-law without even asking us. My husband has talked to his sister and she's mentioned she wants to "look at our stuff and see what she can nick" I don't have anything I want to give away!
My husband and I have been arguing about this because he thinks we should let her borrow some of the things we're not using while I think they should just buy their own things like we bought all our own things. They live in Exeter (which is about 3 1/2 hours away from us), their baby is due at the end of March and we're planning on moving to the states in early June...so I think if we lend her our things we wont get them back!
How should I handle this situation? Should I just let her borrow our things, or should I put my foot down and possibly cause some hurt feelings??