My mother is trying to get me for being an unfit mother

Francis - posted on 02/18/2009 ( 44 moms have responded )

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My mother told me the other night that she thinks that i am an unfit mother and that if my daughter doesn't get the help that she needs that she is going to go to a judge and get me for neglect and take her away. She says i am neglecting her because she might need physical therapy and she only weighs 13 pounds at 6 months and she gets sick often and now i am trying to get a job, and she said that is neglecting her more, because i am working instead of home with her. My parents have alot of money, and My husband and i don't have much. I am wondering if anyone else has been through this and what the odd are of them being able to take my daughter away from me!

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Alice - posted on 02/18/2009

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Haven't been through it.

I think you need to set some boundaries with your family. Your mother sounds like she has too much time on her hands and wants to be more involved than she should be.

By setting boundaries you are also going to have to sacrifice some assistance from her though. So that means not involving her so much in the negative things going on, less discussions with her about your problems (find a friend or other family member that will not discuss anything with her to talk to), less baby sitting and financial support.

Go to your local GP and ask about options open to you about health care and treatment for your child. The local hospital also may be able to point you in the right direction. Even if you have one appt with a physio and then ask them what you can do at home as you can't afford to keep coming. They can give you exercises to do or even hydro work you can do at the local pool.

Most of all breathe and believe in your worth. Start doing things to better the situation and don't let your mothers words drag and slow you down to a point of inaction

Goodluck :)

JESS - posted on 02/18/2009

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Your mom is borderline abusive. Personally, I'd lock your doors and turn off your phone. she has no right.

Kiwana - posted on 02/19/2009

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I'm no expert by far, but without commenting on your relationship with your mother, I would say this to you.  Make sure your daughter is receiving adequate medical care.  Is she having a bad reaction to the formula she is on?  What else are you feeding her?  Some parents have to work in order to take care of their families and that is nothing to feel guilty about.  So if you have to work, then work.  You'll put yourself through enough guilt trips on your own.  Don't let someone else make you feel guilty.  You don't deserve it.  Most important though is to make sure your daughter is o.k.  You may want to try taking her to different doctor than the one she has already seen, just to get a different opinion.

Belinda - posted on 02/18/2009

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hi i am so sorry to read how awful your mother are. in south africa it's not that easy to take away someones child. if they take away every child of every mother that is working, there will be a lot of children homeless. i can not think of any reason why the court will rule in her favour. some children dont eat much and not getting fat. alot of babies do get fat, but not all of them. as long as you and your husband provides her with everything that she needs, you will allways be a good mom. i do not speek of luxuries, only what she needs and most of all: LOVE. and you have alot of it for your baby. there are not supose to be a problem if she try, but keep your chin up and keep loving your baby. i will be thinking of you and praying for you.

Kirstyn - posted on 02/18/2009

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Unless your mother can give the judge physical proof that you are neglectful she can't do anything. My daughter will be 6 months on the 7th and she only weighs about 13 lbs. as well, if not a little less and our doctor tells us she is perfectly healthy. You working is definatley not neglectful because majority of families now adays have both parents working, and I'm sure you were not planning on leaving your baby at home by herself while you were gone and whoever you get to watch her should be good or you wouldn't leave your child with them in the first place! It sounds like your mother is just trying to get under your skin and have you all parinoid. Just because you're bringing your daughter up a little differently than she would she might be trying to get you to change. As long as your daughter's well being is your top priority and you are not actually doing anything to neglect her than you have nothing to worry about.

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Chaya - posted on 07/30/2012

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The thread is a little dated, but this is something that parents in this situation should know. Get a lawyer, ACLU is a good place to start, go to a judge and get legal custody, then mom, nosy neighbor, dad, or whomever, can't get custody without a fight Getting a job isn't negligent, and no judge in his right mind will call it that.

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2009

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I forgot to mention that my daughter was below the growth chart measurements until she was 5 years old! My pedi told me that she's fine as long as she followed the curve of the chart she can be below without concern. The doc drew a line below the curve and said she shouldn't fall below THAT line. You can google growth charts and plot her height and weight from birth to see if she's following a pattern even if it's below the lowest norm. I noticed some comments stating that your baby is underweight. I personally don't think so. You have to look at her height as well as her growth in general. Has she lossed weight or stopped growing all together? If not than I see no issue. My daughter could wear 3-6 month shorts at 2 years old! She was just a sweet, cute petite little thing. She is now in the 25% for height and weight at 9 years old. Beleive it or not, there ARE small people in the world. Your daughter doesn't seem skinny in this pic by the looks of her face and leg, just teeny. My daughter was like a little doll and didn't hit 20lbs until after her second birthday. People were amazed to see this tiny little peanut talking the way she did because she was so small for her age. She turned out to be VERY intelligent and quite healthy without the frequent colds and stomach viruses she had as an infant (under the age of 1). She also had many ear infections, about 9 in her first year. Every cold or virus ended with one. Some kids are just more prone. I added a link for you to check your daughter's growth on your own. For a 6 month old 13lbs is in the 5th percentile. That means that if you line up 100 babies, 95 will be bigger and 5 will be smaller. Good Luck and I hope this makes you feel better.



http://pediatrics.about.com/library/grow...



 



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Jaime - posted on 02/21/2009

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WoW! I dont see how she could do that, but if the baby is seeing a doctor when she is supposed to then if there was a problem, im sure they would let you know. She does sound small for her age. Just make sure you take her to a doctor for her regular check-ups and I dont think that anything can happen to you. If something is wrong with the baby and the doctors are not catching it then its on them. I had a child with asthma really bad and I am a single mom, and I have been through many jobs because of her illness, but it was worth it to know that my baby was ok. My mom was the same way. My children are 13 and 10 and I still here her mouth about how I do things. That is your daughter and U call the shots.

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2009

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I'm sorry but if you are loving, feeding, providing for and doing everything you possibly can for your baby then you have done nothing wrong. What is the physical therapy for? And are you unable to get her the pt she needs? I would try to make that happen if she really needs it.  And working doesn't make you a bad parent if you need to keep a roof over your heads.  As for your daughter's size and frequent illnesses, I can say that my daughter was breastfed, ate very well and was 7.14lb at birth. She got colds and ear infections constantly and was 16lbs at 1 year old. She was tiny but she was relatively healthy colds aside. My son was 19lbs at 6 months old. Quite a huge difference but each baby is different. I don't know everything about your lifestyle but nothing you've mentioned above seems like bad parenting but I would really look into the PT if your baby needs it.

Shelly - posted on 02/21/2009

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Francis,



  It's time for you to tell your mother to but out!!!  Yes you are an adult and shes not paying your bills and she didn't give birth to your daughter...Over bearing mothers are enough to drive you crazy!!!! I know I have one they seem to think that thier money makes them god over everyone and every thing....Time for you to grow up when it come to your mom.  It may be one of the hardest things you will ever do but trust me for your own sanity walk away until she figures out that she's not going to tell you how to raise your child and when she figures out that you are an adult and you have a brain and know whats best for your daughter..Forwarning I have not talked to my mother for almost 4 yrs...She thinks that I am being so unfair to her all of my brothers and sisters tell me they wish they could do it....Time to figure out how tied to your mom you want to be and how free you really want to be..

Margaret - posted on 02/21/2009

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your mom is probably just concerned. if she is so cincerned with your baby being neglected offer to let her help, maybe even when you go to work. i dont know where you live but in most states there is something called early intervention that gives free therapy regardless of income for babies with delays in all categories including physical therapy

Kimberly - posted on 02/20/2009

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Some babies are just prone to ear infections. My daughter had probably 8 ear infections by the time she was 1. We got tubes in her ears at 14 mths and that cut down on ALL illnesses, it was amazing. As long as you take her to the dr regularly, and it sounds like you are, then you're doing all you can. Also, I don't think 13 lbs at 6 mths is that small. Maybe it is on the "small" side, but who cares? Babies are all across the board when it comes to size. My niece was 13 lbs at 1 year and although in the 0-5%, she was healthy. She's now almost 8 and still tiny, yet still perfectly healthy. Just so you know, I think your daughter is about the cutest baby I've ever seen!

Danielle - posted on 02/20/2009

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It sound like you need to cut your ties with your mother.
I couldn't image what it would be like to have that kind of threat, especially from someone who should be supporting you as one mother to another. It seems like you are doing everything possible to ensure your daughters health is your main priority. Maybe get doctor documentation to cover all your bases; showing that you have been concerned with her health and, unlike your mothers accusations, have been treating her illness'. I also don't think it would hurt to contact a lawyer to get a legal opinion.
Unfortunately this isn't a threat that I would personally take lightly.
There are some pretty bold threats and accusations that were made. And I'm sure the stress of it all, especially with your daughters health, would be better left divided from your family.

Desiree - posted on 02/20/2009

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Quoting Francis:

I take her to the pediatrician regularly and every time i ask about her weight to see if it is a concern. She has a specialist appontment tommorrow and the physical therapy people next thursday. In fact my mother even told me that i take her to the dr.s too often. She said i worry over stupid stuff.



Hmmmm, she's going to take the baby away because she's sick too much but you worry over stupid stuff and take her to the doctors too often?  I think your mom is kinda contradicting herself there...lol! You've got proof of doctors visits and you're going through all the proper chanels to make sure your baby is healthy...... I would say you have nothing to worry about! All babies are different and grow at different rates. It looks like your mother has way too much time on her hands and has nothing better to do than badger you (I have one of those....lol)! The best thing you can probably do for yourself is distance yourself from her. It's hard because she's your mother but in the end you'll be a lot happier and wont be second guessing your every move! As for going back to work.... with the economy the way it is you do what you have to do! Every mother would probably rather be at home with their kids but it's damn near impossible these days! It doesn't make you a bad mother, it's makes you a mother that is doing everything that you can to make sure your child is taken care of and has everything she needs...... which is awesome! Just keep doing what your doing and don't worry about what anyone else has to say about it..... including your mother!

Francis - posted on 02/20/2009

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She is on pro sobee because she has an intolerance to milk. I feed her cereal twice a day and i feed her a jar of vegtables and a jar of fruit a day too. She is an early teether as well.

Heather - posted on 02/19/2009

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Some babies get lots of ear infections...your pediatrician will let you know if/when it is a problem.  As for the uti, make sure you wipe from front to back when she is dirty...otherwise, you could inadvertantly be helping bacteria into her urinary tract.  She may be an early teether...my daughter started running fever due to teething at 2 months.  Your pediatrician will tell you if there seems to be a problem with your daughter's development.  Set some boundaries with your mom...let her know that you appreciate that she wants the best for your daughter but make sure she knows that you're doing what your pediatrician says to make her as healthy as possible.

Francis - posted on 02/19/2009

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My daughter has had 3 ear infectins and two urinary tract infections and runs fever alot and has had several viruses. bu her pediatrician said she looked and sounded good at her last visit.

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Also my son was in the less than 5 percent until this past Jan. He is now in the 87 percentile and he still has a speech delay but is functioning normal. He is happy and so am I. That is what matters.

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That is so sad. Yes, I have been through this with my step mother and my father. It was really my step mother that put my father in that position. I lived in Illinois at the time and my husband and I moved to Wisconsin. Remember that your daughter is your daughter. Reassure your mother that you and your husband are taking care of her. I would suggest to take your daughter to your famiy doctor and I would really recommend a peidiatrician at this point. Also, you can have her tested at a birth to 3 program for frree. I would do that now. It takes up to 45 days for them to call you back but it is worth it. My son has a speech delay and we didn't find out about it until 2 1/2 years old. Get it done now since she is so little and under 3 she will benefit from any help and your famiy will too. This way your parents can't say you didn't do anything. Maybe they see something that you don't. It doesn't mean that you are unfit but parents can be so protective even though they aren't the parents of your child. You can contact the county in your area and ask them about the birth to 3 program. If you don't get anywhere ask your Dr. about the program. The state and county are required by the fed. gov. to have this type of program. IF you need help e-mail me at mjanelle@charter.net and i will help as much as I can. Good Luck you are in for a rollercoaster ride with your parents...

Stephanie - posted on 02/19/2009

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I'm so sorry that she is putting you thru this. My mother did the same thing. My husband built a really cool loft bed for our son out of 4x4 treated lumber. He was 6 at the time. My mother saw a 20/20 show about some kid getting sick on treated lumber at a playground. So she went on rampage. Even called DFS. We had case studies on the wood, reports for his and two other doctors about the safety of the wood and she was not letting up. I called the Dr. Laura show and asked what to do and she more or less told me to stop allowing evil into my home. Even though said evil was my mother. I won, DFS laughed at her and dropped the case the same week, but I never forgot what she tryed to do to my family. We see her at family events and once in a while, but she does not come into my home nor do we share ANY info about our lives. Our family is much healthier and stronger without her as a fixture.

I hope you learn from what I went thru. Get your facts together, follow your doctor's orders and don't allow the blood sucking vampire back in your home.

Stephanie - posted on 02/19/2009

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what do your daughters doctors say about her illnesses and size. That is what any court would base a decision on, not your working outside of the home. Follow up with her doctors often and do not allow your mother to scare you. As a matter of fact, I would cut off ties (and did) with anyone that threatens my family, even though it was my mother. Hard??? Heck yea it's hard, but you and your family will be more at peace without the drama of Mommy dearest in your lives. Follow doctor orders to the letter.

Heidi - posted on 02/19/2009

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I havent been through this... but your parents will have to prove without a doubt that you are negligent.. and putting your childs health and safety at risk. Many people have to work.. they dont all get the priveledge i have had to stay home with my kids. At 6 months old your baby should weigh more than 13 pounds, perhaps you should have her looked at by a pediatrician.

Di - posted on 02/19/2009

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i'm not sure about the legal stuff. but it sounds like your baby might be lactose intolerant. it wouldn't hurt to ask your doctor about it.

Paris - posted on 02/18/2009

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Dont stress i was only 1lb heavier at her age and im fine i was only a tiny lil thing growing up untill i finished school and started working then i put on a lil more weight and im of average size now so i wouldnt worry to much. btw she is gawjus

Stacey - posted on 02/18/2009

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Quoting Penny:

Well first of all children get sick, but she needs more then her word she needs photos of the house if its messy and dirty she will need footage of you ' neglecting' your little girl. If she does not have proof she will get laughed out of court.

Your mother seems to be all talk. if she keeps it up, as much as it hurts no longer let her be a part of your life. you don't need her on your back all the time when your working and looking after your child.

Good luck.


 



I agree that your mother would need some sort of hard evidence.

Stacey - posted on 02/18/2009

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The best piece of evidence you can provide is a statement from your Pediatrician that states your daughter is healthy and is on track with developmental milestones for her age. If your pediatrician dose suggests that your child needs some therapy or treatment, do it and keep of your records as evidence. So that you can prove you are providing everything your child needs. Secondly if she takes you to court and you don’t have money for a lawyer you should be able to seek free legal advice. Contact your local social service office or child support agency and they should be able to connect you with the right public assistance legal agency. Call them and ask what you can do to protect your family. Third the argument that you are not providing for your child because you have a job will not hold up in court. I would advise not to work over 40hrs if it’s possible, just to be on the safe side. I haven’t been there but, I have done my homework on custody. My husband and I are looking into having him legally adopt my daughter. Once you get the okay from your pediatrician give it to your mom and maybe she will think twice about taking you to court. There has to be a sign of neglect for her to win. Good luck and I wish the best for family.

Brenda - posted on 02/18/2009

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Quoting Francis:

I take her to the pediatrician regularly and every time i ask about her weight to see if it is a concern. She has a specialist appontment tommorrow and the physical therapy people next thursday. In fact my mother even told me that i take her to the dr.s too often. She said i worry over stupid stuff.


To be honest, dear, she sounds like she is just trying to control you after you are out of her household.  You are doing all you can, you should be proud of yourself.  It will take some courage on your part, but she needs to keep her nose out of it.  I am so sorry you are going through this, as if being a mom isn't hard enough.

Brenda - posted on 02/18/2009

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As long as your pediatrician knows the history with your child, and believes that you are doing everything you can for her, I really don't think there is much she can do.  A sickly baby is not the fault of a parent if they are doing the things that are necessary for them, and you should get your pediatrician in on it right away.  Take your daughter in specifically to talk to your pediatrician and tell him/her about the situation with your mother.  You may even go as far as invite your mother along to the next doctor's visit and have the doctor explain to her that there is no neglect present and you are doing what is necessary for your baby. If she wants to argue with the doctor, let her have at.  I bet she won't get far with him or her.



I honestly have not heard of doing physical therapy on an infant that age except in extreme cases of problems at birth.  The best way to combat her is to put facts on your side and make sure she understands that this is your child, and it is your responsibility.  Bottom line, she's your mother, but that doesn't give her the right to try to tell you how to raise your child.  Good luck!

Michele - posted on 02/18/2009

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Does your baby have a Medical Card?  If so, then the baby is being cared for by you and your husband and your pediatrician.  Make sure to keep appointments, and have proof that you are doing the best you can to take care of the baby.  She should not have threatened you like that, it is totally evil.  Sounds like the bigger problem is that your mom knows how to get to you, and doesn't put any brakes on when she wants to hurt you.  damn shame.

Karri - posted on 02/18/2009

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You need to have a serious talk with your mother and let her know that she has crossed a line.  You need to let her know that you both are not going to see eye to eye on a lot of things and how you raise your kids is one of them.  If she cant come to respect on how you raise your child or children then she has no room to talk and you should stop talking to her until she realizes that.  As for your daughter's weight, she is fine. I would get a second opinion about her weight and why she is getting sick.  My daughter is 5 months and is around the same weight as your daughters.  My daughter was 3 1/2 weeks early, and the hospital considered her a premie. But at every doctor's visit, they say that she is doing great.  

Natalie - posted on 02/18/2009

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I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. From what you have written, and also evidenced by the fact that you are part of this group and participating, it seems to me that you are not a neglectful mother. I also experienced all sorts of judgment from my mother-in-law. It is very difficult to be around someone who judges and critisizes you over parenting and being a working mom. As others have said, every child is different, and your baby is yours, not hers. I agree with Alice Hilberdink. You need to set boundaries and not depend on her for help, because she will not miss an opportunity to be critical and make you feel guilty. And you need to stand up to her, with respect, as an adult, and let her know that she is welcome to have an opinion but you do not need, nor welcome her criticism and threats. My two cents. Hang in there girl!

Maree-Davies - posted on 02/18/2009

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oh you poor thing! i know how you feel! sometimes our parents still see us as 10 year olds and not as the adults we have become. it is difficult getting them to see reason where their precious grandchildren are concerned. i would suggest you speak to your GP about this as she or he would firstly be able to reassure you there would have to be some major and obvious neglect before a judge would even consider removing a child from your home, and secondly she could give you some info on different growth rates for children that you could give to your mother. having money does not make anyone a better parent! all we can do is the best with what we have. the best thing we can give our children is time... not things. see if you could have a conference with your parents and you and your husband to explain, in a calm manner how her accusations are affecting you. the stress must be awful! if you are worried about either you or your mum losing your tempers, get a intermediary in to just sit in on the talk. a councillor would do it, or your GP could suggest someone, perhaps even a neutral friend of the family.  good luck! i totally sympathise!

Francis - posted on 02/18/2009

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I take her to the pediatrician regularly and every time i ask about her weight to see if it is a concern. She has a specialist appontment tommorrow and the physical therapy people next thursday. In fact my mother even told me that i take her to the dr.s too often. She said i worry over stupid stuff.

Wendy - posted on 02/18/2009

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Your doctor can also recommend county services for physical therapy.  Our children qualifed for free therapy from our county's "Birth to 3" services. 

Penny - posted on 02/18/2009

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Well first of all children get sick, but she needs more then her word she needs photos of the house if its messy and dirty she will need footage of you ' neglecting' your little girl. If she does not have proof she will get laughed out of court.



Your mother seems to be all talk. if she keeps it up, as much as it hurts no longer let her be a part of your life. you don't need her on your back all the time when your working and looking after your child.



Good luck.

JESS - posted on 02/18/2009

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In short, don't they say that babies double their birth weight by 6 months? So if your baby was only 6 lbs or so 13 lbs would be adequate. Further, if your doctor hasn't said anything (Im sure they would if they were concerned) than Im sure you are doing a fine job, mom!



Ive had the opposite problem haha my 7 1/2 month old is 23 lbs!!! My husband and I are pretty tall skinny people with healthy diets; but for some reason people think my baby boy is overfed and huge. He is super healthy, and well-proportioned... just big haha.



Tell them to back off, every baby is different

Amanda - posted on 02/18/2009

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well prove her wrong with out saying any thing bring your baby to a pediatrition find out if she is average weight and if she really does need extra care i dont think she is under weight my miranda wieghed about the same at her age shes 10 months old now only weighs about 16 pounds my doctor told me she is peteit my baby wasnt sick though a bit of spit up every day is normal dont worrie so much

Melissa - posted on 02/18/2009

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If your child's pediatricianis ok with her growth and development then I think you need to let your mother know that.  It's hard when you are trying your best to be a good mother and everyone else seems to have an opinion about how you should raise your child.  I also think you need to let your mother know that she needs to mind her own buisness or she might not have a relationship with her granddaughter.

Melissa - posted on 02/18/2009

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If your child's pediatricianis ok with her growth and development then I think you need to let your mother know that.  It's hard when you are trying your best to be a good mother and everyone else seems to have an opinion about how you should raise your child.  I also think you need to let your mother know that she needs to mind her own buisness or she might not have a relationship with her granddaughter.

Danielle - posted on 02/18/2009

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Wow... I am so sorry to hear you are going through that!  With your daughter being sick often, trying to keep her healthy at 6 months old is a challenge in itself. It seems to me that your pediatrician would have said something if he/ she was concerned that your child needed physical therapy at 6 months. Have you talked to your pediatrician about it? Remember that babies develop at different times and in different ways... I'm sure if there was a serious problem, your pediatrician would have expressed concern by now. Also- you having to work outside the home DOES NOT make you an unfit mother! That is absolutely ridiculous! I was home with my son for the first eight weeks and then sent him to a babysitter when I went to work. Of course, I would have rather stayed home with him, however that just isn't feasable anymore with our economy going down the drain! My son is almost a year now and he is developing normally, as well, as being a very social/ well- adjusted boy!  I don't think you have anything to worry about. But if your mother did try to go to a judge and take your daughter away, she would have to present alot of evidence proving you to be an unfit mother as well as go through an investigation. It is VERY unlikely that your daughter would be taken away from you. Good Luck!

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Well, my daughter weighed 13 lbs when she was 6 months old.  I was breast feeding and pregnant and not making enough milk.  I started supplementing with formula and she put on weight faster, but she really was just not a hungry baby, and she is still long and skinny.  SHe on the other hand was not sick.  It is too bad that your mom is being like that, unless she is just concerned about the baby.  Are you nursing or feeding formula?  If you're nursing, are you drinking enough water and eating healthy foods?  If not and you are nursing, the baby may not be getting enough nutrition.  Also if there is a lot of stress in your home, that could cause the baby to have problems.  What does the dr. say?  Also, why would she need physical therapy?  Is she ok?  She looks beautiful in the picture:)

Ashley - posted on 02/18/2009

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it sounds to me like your doing a great job, you seem concerned with your daughter, and are tkaing care of your family by getting a job, now that being said if you;ve taken your daghter for her checkups and your doc says sees healthy but small then you have nothing to worry about, you may just have a small child, my daughter is 7 months, and weighs 14.4 lbs, but is very healthly, , your not a bad mother for getting a job if your family needs to income or if you need ot get out of the house a few hours a week to be a better mother then no one shoudl judge you for that, as long as you are taking care of your daughter, nurturing her, spending time with her, loving her, and making sure she's fed, and clean then you have nothing to worry about, just becasue some one has money a judge wont give them your child, the only way that woudl happen is if they had proof your child was living in a dangerous or neglectful envirment so what i'm saying is as long as your doing eveything in your power to make sure your daugher is taken care of and has a home to live in then your doing great

AMANDA - posted on 02/18/2009

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Hi, I don't no much on this topic but i wanted to say as long as your in contact with health visitors or doctors that can help if your daughter has a underlying problem then i can't imagine they could take her unless its proven that your child is being starved or mistreated.It doesn't matter if they have more money than you that doesn't mean nothing as long as your child is in a happy enviroment and being looked after thats all that matter, and as for you getting a job we are all entitled to earn a living. if you are concerned about your daughters weight i would seek help.Hope that helps.

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Why would your mother think you are an unfit mother? Have you check with you childs doctoe about her weight? It sounds like you may need to if you havent already. Your baby is underweight! What types of health issuse is you daughter having? If you are finacially stuggleing you may need to get a job, do not feel guilty about that! Make sure you get a GOOD daycare provider! I did daycare for 14 years, there are a lot of weirdos out there! I also have been a foster parent for several years, you child will not be taken away for no reason! Child Protective Service does not generally WANT to take children out of the home. Make sure you get your child to the doctor and follow his/her recommendations for your childs health and put your child first! Do not worry about your mothers threats unless you question your parenting. If you feel you could use some help, don't be afraid to ask for it. Read a book on good parenting or ask an experienced parent (that has well behaved and healthy kids) what they are doing. A great parent takes advice and searches for help when they need it!

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