my mother is trying to sue me for visitation rights to my kids

Jennifer - posted on 10/17/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My mother is in contact with a lawyer to sue me for visitiation rights with my 5 and 8 year old girls! She is currently dating my ex brother in law and my children came home one day and told me that when he is around she doesnt pay any attention to them also she has blown us off and changed plans or just plain not showed up when she told them she would. I tried to talk to her many of times about this issue and she would just get pissed off and not listen to my concerns for the girls. As time has gone by all I asked was that he did not come around when she had them or she would not mention him around the girls or I. She continually ignored my rules and then one day my 8 year old came home crying telling me that grandma told her that this dispute was all her fault and she had to fix it or she couldn't see her anymore. I had it then. I called her and told her that it was not ok to try to manipulate my daughter and she was no longer allowed to see them anymore or have contact with them either, She has continued to harrass and stalk us by showing up at school events and soccer events she knows we will be at. As time has gone by my daughter has told me more about grandma yelling at her for the things I have said to my mother and drinking around her and having her boyfriend spend the night with her when I told her he wasnt to be around and also letting him take them places without grandma there and without my knowledge. What should I do? Does she actually have a case where she could win visitation rights with them?

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Denikka - posted on 10/17/2012

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I doubt it.

Grandparents rights are sketchy at best.

For now, keep your kids away and keep a record of everything that she does. Don't answer phone calls. Only respond to written correspondences and then, only when you absolutely have to.

Keep a cool head on your side. Don't get sucked into dealing dirty with her. No name calling or anything of that natural.

Talk to school administrators and make SURE they are aware that no one is to pick up your kids but you. Let them know that this woman is harassing you and is not to be involved with your children.

The best thing you can do is go in to the courts and ask for a restraining order. I know it sounds drastic, but I believe it's a necessary step. That way, she can be removed when she shows up at soccer games or at school events. She won't be able to have contact with you or your children and, hopefully, will stop harassing you.



You are well with in your rights as a parent to choose who sees your kids. If you feel she's a negative influence or a danger to your children, then you have every right to step in and protect your kids. No judge will fault you for that.

I wish you the best :)

Anaquita - posted on 10/17/2012

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Have your husband and father testify. Beg your father if need be. Talk to her friends you know has seen it. Really talk and tell them your side of the story. Maybe one or two will testify on your behalf. Hopefully.

Jennifer - posted on 10/17/2012

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Yes others have seen what she has been doing. My husband, my father and some of her friends but they wouldn't testify for me because she is making up lies for reasons I won't let her see the girls and I'm also in Oklahoma and have looked up grandparent rights but cant seem to find anything that meets the criteria of this case

Anaquita - posted on 10/17/2012

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That depends on the state where you live. Some states are into granting grandparents rights. Others not so much. You and your kids may need to testify as to why you no longer see her. Has anyone else witnessed what's been going on? If so have them testify as well. Since she is not a parent, but a grandparent, the courts may be less likely to grant her some visitations with a good case against her.

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