My nearly 13 year old say's her friend thought she was pregnant!!!!

S. - posted on 04/17/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I was utterly gob smacked, I asked my daughter if she'd had a good day and she said eventful, so I asked why? She said her friend thought she was pregnant! Her friend is 13 years old and had had un protected sex with her bf, my daughter then said her friend did a test but she wasn't sure about the result so wants to do another one.
I went on a huge lecture, Under age sex, un protected sex that kind of thing, my daughter said the friend won't tell her mum as she thinks she'll go mad and the friend said if she is pregnant she will just get an abortion, me on another rant "lecture" abortions arnt birth control,living with it all your life, what about S.T.I's, dose the friend think the hospital won't tell the mum when she's had a abortion (I am all for the woman's own choice on abortion) but at 13 there babies themselves.
Me and my daughter are close and I try and handle things well as a lot of sex questions are popping up by things she hear's at school (she's used to me ranting on by the way) i hope by my advise she goes gives her friend some and I don't know the girl. It's shocked me and tbh I think it's shocked my daughter too. I told her that if she ever feels she can't come to me to please go to her aunties that will help her and give her adult advice.

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Kimberly - posted on 04/17/2012

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wow that is young to be playing in a grown up world. Maybe if you can get some handouts from the clinic's and give them to the girl. Even if you have a sexual heath unit in your area they will check you for STI's for free and give her condoms at least to be using, dont know if the do b/c. If she is pregnant something will have to be done about it soon then later because if she keeping it she will have to get on the right vitimians and get checked out health wise or if she is aborting it she will have to do that before she is too far along. Good on your daughter for telling you, thats something to be proud of not all kids confide in there parents.

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S. - posted on 04/17/2012

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I'm not sure we have youth clinic's I'v not heard of any but I will look in to it.

Kelina - posted on 04/17/2012

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is there a youth clinic nearby that the girls can go to? her friend might be resistant to it but if she words it right it might be easier. If she's uncomfortable giving her friend advice about birth control or contraception or anything like that then dragging her to the youth clinic is probably the best option.

S. - posted on 04/17/2012

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I don't know her or the mum my daughter hasn't been at the school for long and we are new to the area, I told my daughter to tell her friend that she should go to the local family planning centre who will advice her on bc I might pop there myself in morning and find out opening times maybe the girl will go with more info!
I thought about ringing the school and seeing if they could talk to the kids, they do have sex edd but if it's anything like I was at school it wasn't that helpful! What do you think?

Krista - posted on 04/17/2012

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Oh my lord, do you know who this girl is? Do you know her mom? This girl desperately needs some proper education on sex and contraception. If she won't tell her mom, can your daughter drag her friend to a Planned Parenthood, so that they'll give her some proper information?

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