My not responsible 15 Year old Daughter

Terri - posted on 11/14/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter awakes in the morning to read a note I wrote her, as well as me telling her at same time, that she has an appointment and the office of her school will let her know what time I'll pick her up at. So just to skip for now all the drama in between. My daughter ditches looking for me, even after the fact the gale in office that took my phone call in morning, and at end of day I recall back several times and to the same person, verifies she gave my daughter a call to the office a note. And when I then call again, the gale in the office says to me how my daughter asked what specific place to meet me, and how mad my daughter acted and looked that i was coming to get her. Then and in the end shows up at house 2 in a half hours later. To say she for got, the school didn't let her know. And more Crap lies later. Ask me for more info (DRAMA)..

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Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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Ok, so all of this information would have been VERY helpful to mothers who might be able to help. Instead, you kind of just wrote it off as teenage daughter drama in your opening post.

I'm just going to say that I don't think a group of women on the internet can help you with this one. You need professionals (which you have clearly tried). I am not suggesting you give up on her....but why did you not call the police, and if dad is part of the problem, why have you not talked to a lawyer about the custody arrangements since 2006?

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Terri - posted on 11/14/2013

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I'm very sorry and thank you. At the time i posted what I had this beacme a new first time chat mom area. Non of it is that of just a teen. For what she did this time was hard on me. I seen this and became a member, not knowing how to start/begin our story. I'm glad I got a vehicle after beeing sold two bad lemons. She has redoctors counslers physc. appointments all finally restarted. That Ive made and she will go to on my weeks. My x had me come over to supper shortly around a week after I left and set up a meal, a friend of daughters to go play with and an anrgument that led to me getting arrested in 06. He had Payed for a lawyer one was Apointed to me. He wanted to take her from me totaly. He was saying he was older and had a job, not on SSI like me. The place I went thru will not reopen the case or have a seperate file for as in same matter case. Her father and her both gave up on me probably when i stuck up for my self and got out of a mentally abused relashionship i was in with him sense June of 1997. My ma said that I was not to bring cops to her place, and she was not needing to go in to the hospital. I said She thinks she can get away with this, No Im not letting her. Maybe you guys want ta leave while I got to do this as her parent then. That was oveisally a no. Nope this is my only chance as a parent. Iv so many times told my daughter she is stuck with me because I love her. Thank You very much Jodi..

Terri - posted on 11/14/2013

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I just got a vehicle, thru a program/donation I pay application $40.00 fee, n the title transfer and plates cost. It's a stick shift, been along time. That and her school parking lot is not accessible for the cars leaving the lot leather own ones coming in. Its our normal routine for appointments, or at least was when i had a vehicle 8 months prier. I left her dad in 2006, several many reasons. Parenting and lack there of he didn't do. He was always working 50 60 70 hours a week. My daughter sense June of 06, stays with me for one week on Sunday 5pm tell the next Sunday at 5pm then to her dads. For years iv called my family her dad for help with her attitude, yelling braking things throwing thing, ripping things or hurting and threatening me. Iv done corners, spanking, calm down to her eye level calmly talked, items toys too-ken away, bed early stickers, tokens, pillow talk, Parenting classes diploma of Parenting With Logic. A few years ago I tried to put her on a CHINS Program. When in need of help then suffering/making worse call for assistance/Cops. Her dad refused to have any part in it, especially sign-en it Or even putting good notes down on paper for our daughter. as in with getting her help with counselors appointment's. She has been in three different Hospital Placements more than 8 times, longest stay was 68 days and her dad got her signed out early. We are staying with my biological mom, and her man of over 14 years, his 17 year old daughter, and my just turned 9 year old nephew they have had for three years sense they took him from me. Because attitude is also with him. All of very highly our stuff is in storage, or my daughter rather take things to her dads and not bring back. Today I got the title for our car, and was also told the building/apartment is built and done and ready for us to move into on Tuesday, finally are new start. I love my one and only ever merc. daughter i was blessed with. I'm not ever giving up. Ive tried so hard for so long and I know she knows she is very smart and a great person.

Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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Terri, I must admit, this is all VERY confusing. Your post is a little incoherent. I feel we are only getting a small amount of information and there is a lot more to this.

My questions:

Why did you sit across the way from the school and not go and physically collect her?

Why is she needed in care in hospital? There is clearly another issue here that you have not told us.

Why on earth would the doctor recommend you call the cops? This is not normal. Clearly there is information you haven't told us.

What do you mean living staying? Are you actually living there or only staying there? That is such an odd way to describe your home.

I am not understanding, if the doctor is suggesting calling police for her to be admitted to hospital, why she can come home and just do her homework, eat and go to bed.

What do you meant "she has nothing to take away, here".

Seriously, if you want advice on this site, you have to at least be able to explain the issue in a way the average person can understand. As it stands, your post is just confusing.

Terri - posted on 11/14/2013

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Well sense i sat across the way from her school from 2:30 - 5:30. I had been early, I called the doctor fr her ADHD/Med Counselor to say my daughter was not showing up, and has had a bad attitude, to get in on time but I'll keep waiting ta hope she comes thru and that she is just messing around at the school. I recalled the school that's when the gale in the office said how my daughter came down and was mad. I recalled the nurse again, she had said her doctor wanted her in to the hospital (in care) evaluation Admitted. I recalled school asked for an officer, one was not there. The doctor as well said to call the cops. So I did. My daughter took the City Bus to were we are living/staying. They called me to say she was there, and not to bring cops. I get there confronted my daughter listened to her lies, I told her I called the cops and I was to bring her into hospital . That she was not riding the bus in the morning, I was going to bring her to school in morning. We talked she argued with the principal, he as well knew what was going on from the day before and got more information in person, he said, she'd be watched thru out the day and I/we said no bus I picked her up from school. Strait to the house and homework sat at the table did lots of homework, she ate and then to bed from the table. She has nothing to take away, here. Unfortunately always more to add.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/14/2013

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I'm with Jodi, what are her consequences for her actions in this case?

Jodi - posted on 11/14/2013

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So what are her consequences for said behaviour? What consequences are normally in place for her?

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