My older brother needs a kidney.........

Lauren - posted on 09/21/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I am the mother of a 9 year old and almost 6 month old and my 59 year old brother needs a kidney. Neither of my two older sisters can even consider being his donor due to hypertension. I was diagnosed with it myself at one time and have since been taken off the meds. My conscience is tugging at me that I've not at least talked to my doctor about the possibility of being his donor and I don't know what to do. I feel so torn because I have young children and God forbid if something happened to me or I fell ill later and the issues was worsened due to only having one kidney. Am I being selfish? Should I at least look into it? This is the first place that I've openly discussed this issue, I haven't even mentioned to the hubby how torn up I feel. Any insight would be extremely helpful.


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Tamara - posted on 09/21/2011




i would first find out why he needs it, is it a hereditary reason, if so chances are they wouldn't take yours anyways as you may have the gene. Also is the hypertension hereditary? if so they may not want to take yours since it could put your health at risk in the future.

This is going to be something is going to far harder recovery on you then it will be on him so that is somethign you are going to need to set up a strong support system for. I would sit and discuss it with your hubby and your brother then your doc and his then get tested then go from there.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/21/2011




I would definitlely consider it, and go through all the testing, talk to medical professionals about it etc. If I was cleared, I would love to be able to donate an organ to a loved one to save a life.

Louise - posted on 09/21/2011




I think you need to talk to a specialist before considering this. Medical experts say that the body can cope perfectly well on one kidney and it would be very unlucky for you to pick up a problem with the kidney you have left. Before you torture yourself find out if it is even possible. If it is then it is up to you to decide. If your brothers life is at risk you have a major dilems on your hands. I understand exactly what you are saying about being worried I would feel the same but at the end of the day if the risk to me was minimal I would do it. It's your choice.

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