my oldest girl is now having a baby

Tichelia - posted on 05/06/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my oldest daughter is now having a baby and i don't know how to deal with it. she is not working and the father of the baby has gone her dad and i are having a hard time with money as it is just him working.she is five months and have nothing for the baby. and we can't even buy a pack of pampas for her.

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Dove - posted on 05/06/2016

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As far as getting some stuff... Do you guys have any thrift store/second hand stores there? Maybe help from some churches? Hand-me-downs from friends or relatives or yard sales?

Dove - posted on 05/06/2016

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Well... the faster she files the faster it will happen.

Even if the father of the baby is not working he will likely be required to pay support. I do not know the amount, but where I live it is $50/child or $70/child if the custodial parent is receiving welfare (because the parent doesn't get the money... the state does and they want their money). My ex currently owes the state over $32,000... they can't 'make' him pay, but it's adding up and will not go away... and eventually they will put him in jail for not supporting his kids.

If she's graduated from high school... it isn't 'your' job to deal w/ it... it is hers. Granted, you are her mom and the grandma of the baby, so, of course, you will want to do everything you can... but it's her responsibility to take action and get her life together for the sake of her coming child.

Tichelia - posted on 05/06/2016

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she has finished high school ,he is not working ,and we live in a small inland of bequia. so welfare will take up to 6 months for any action and the baby will be here before that .so right nowshe really need some baby stuff.and thank you so much for you care and concern.

Sarah - posted on 05/06/2016

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How old is she? Why was she not using effective BC? You can't change the fact the baby is coming. File for support from the father; if he works at all a portion can be garnished from his wages for the baby. Have your daughter apply for WIC, food stamps, welfare, medicaid and day care assistance. If she is young; push her to finish high school or get her GED. The use of government assistance can help; but it is temporary until she gets on her feet.

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