My one year old is scared of his real dad

Kaylee - posted on 07/05/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Me and my ex broke up when I was two months pregnant. We were never married. I started dating Bryan, my now fiancé l, when I was four months pregnant. The problem I have now is that my son is scared of his real dad. My son thinks Bryan is his dad, he calls him daddy and he's been in his life since before he was born and now we are getting married. My son currently has supervised visitation with his "real dad" and his mom every other Sunday for three hours. During this time my son does not want his "real dad" to touch him or he cries. Blake's "real dad" does not even seem interested in Blake. I feel like the only reason he is fighting for visitation is because of his mom. I just need advice of how to handle Blake being scared of his "real dad" and how to handle him eventually getting unsupervised visits.

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Ev - posted on 07/06/2014

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Then if you are concerned and have enough proof of it he could get only supervised visits.

Kaylee - posted on 07/05/2014

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I think so he was in jail overnight. He can pass a drug test though because he does crap like that and smokes that synthetic marijuana that doesn't show up in drug tests.

Kaylee - posted on 07/05/2014

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Omg I meant Blake's real dad not me!! Sorry I'm holding a squirmy baby while typing

Ev - posted on 07/05/2014

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Who got the arrest for huffing air duster stuff? " I got arrested a few months ago for driving a vehicle while huffing air duster and he went to rehab in April. " Because you stated that it was you that got arrested for doing that.

Kaylee - posted on 07/05/2014

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It's gone from one hour supervised to three hours supervised and then it will go to three hours unsupervised and then over nights eventually. It's supervised because he was a baby when they started and I was breastfeeding. He hasn't had the best track record either. I got arrested a few months ago for driving a vehicle while huffing air duster and he went to rehab in April. These are things that make me so nervous about him taking him.

Ev - posted on 07/05/2014

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It will get easier. Why is the visit supervised in the first place? Are things going to progress to over night visits?

Kaylee - posted on 07/05/2014

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He's had these visits since he's been born. I personally do not like Blake's real dad and so it's hard for me to make him try and bond when he is so scared of him. I don't expect him to bond with him over night but it's been a year and he's still scared and I don't blame him. I need advice of how to handle his real dad taking him. The thought of over night visits makes me want to throw up. Does it get easier? I know it's best to have his real dad be apart of his life but I can't help but want him to stay away since Bryan is his father figure

Ev - posted on 07/05/2014

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If he has only begun to have these 2x month visits with his real dad for only a total of 6 hours, you can not expect him to get used to the man that fast. He needs to keep on going to build a bond with his dad. It takes time. Its not an overnight thing that happens. Do not have such high expectations for this to occur. Also a child that has not been around someone much or at all is not going to be comfortable with a strange person no matter the relation. That is why these visits are set up so he can learn who this person (dad) is and can have some sort of relationship.

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