My one year old is very aggresive. Is this Normal?

Nichole - posted on 12/12/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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He gets very angry and starts throwing things, and hitting walls, tables, floors, and he has hit me. I dont think he is trying to be mean, but Im worried about it. Is this just a boy thing or an age things? he is 14 months old and has hit all the developmental goals.

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Char - posted on 12/12/2012

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Yes it is normal for a lot of children at this age especially boys. He isn't getting angry merely frustrated because he is unable to properly express his nee ds to you. He is a long way off being able to understand the concept of being mean so when he hits you or pulls your hair gently stroke his hand or face and tell him gentle. He will soon learn. Also at this age children only ever "act out" if something is wrong or they need something. For example food, a sleep, drink, reassurance, fresh air, stimulation, a tickle etc or if they are cold or hot, wet or uncomfortable. Some people learn baby sign language to help with communication. He sounds very smart so that can heighten his frustration. Also boys are usually very hands on and as babies learn by touch about the world around them and of course putting things in their mouths it's not unusual for them to hit, grab and pull etc. if something is going on for you they can feel that and sometimes react in this way and others like if you are stressed or sad or whatever else. Also remember they do not have complete control over their limbs yet and right now they are also

likely to have battles of wills with you as they try to learn what they can and can not control as they navigate the world around them and their place in it. We are having a similar experience with our 9 month old son who is also very smart for his age. Remember gently gently and you will get there.

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