My partner and I split up 4months ago and we have a 15month baby girl together. We split up due to his drinking , foul abuse towards me , he was always out 4nights ask leaving me to deal with our baby by myself. He would rush to sort himself out with a beer an watch football and leave our daughter in her car seat when she was due a feed. I was always constantly worried about him drinking as the slightest thing I did pissed him off and he would start shout abuse at me and I was scared of him that it wud lead to more. He never came with me to put his name on birth certificate and I told him if his name isn't on he will have no rights over our daughter , the only time he cared about putting his name on was when he was drunk and starting an argument with me. He was always spending money on booze and nearly got thrown out our house due to him not paying rent. He never bothered with both if us when we were together and sees our daughter every Sunday 10-4 but is either late picking her up or early dropping her off. He has demanded he wants her over night but I have said as she is to young and is settled in my house. He has been out drinking every night since we split and was always drinking when we were together so I dnt feel comfortable with my daughter being in them surroundings. He has applied to the court for more access that he has her all weekend and over night stay. Can some1 please advise me of what will happen because I feel sick with worry.

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Kelly - posted on 10/23/2012

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Usually, a father gets every other weekend and one day during the week that he does not see the child, that's standard visitation. They also allow the parent to be within a half hour of the visitation, so he can be a half hour late. I understand why you may be worried, but your problem is going to be providing any evidence as to why he shouldn't have the child. If he goes out drinking when he doesn't have her and you bring that up, that may make you look like your just finding excuses. The courts like to give both parents the ability to parent, unless they can be proven unfit. Hearsay in court is nothing, it's all about evidence.

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