Delia - posted on 10/21/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hi I am new to this site. I currently live in Cyprus with my partner of 9 years and our daughter who is 6. He has a son from a woman he had a fling with 13 years ago. His son is 13 years old. When I met him he had a terrible time with her even to the extent of her blackmailing him for more money, saying he could not see his son. At the time we were living in the UK. My patner has always given her maintenance and that has never changed. Then she got married to a very rich man and had another child. Everything improved slightly and she seemed to be behaving a bit more resonably. But now after her 6 years of marriage she told my partner that her husband hit her and broke her jaw, this by all accounts was not the first time this has happened but she obviously put up with it because of the lifestyle and money. She is now getting divorced. Obviously my partner was upset because his son witnessed this and because we live abroad felt a little helpless. He asked his son if he wanted to come and stay for a week but he would not leave his mother or his younger step brother, which I totally understand. In a moment of weakness I offered them all to come for a week to get their heads together whilst this was all going on.. This is bearing in mind I have never met or even spoken to his ex. She said thank you but it never materialised. Now nearly a year later she has deceided she would like a holiday and has asked to come out and stay. I am not happy about this as this was an offer made in extremis at the time of the assualt it was not an open ended offer for her to have a holiday when she feeels like it. My partner is making me feel bad about it. We are due to be married next year and he has still not told his son or her. He is in the UK at the moment and I just found out he spent the evening there at her house with another couple having dinner. Am I being unreasonable to think this is not acceptable. Any advise would be much appreciated.