my partners mum is telling me what to do with my son. help?

Lindsey - posted on 07/30/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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my partners mum is always telling me what to do with my son. when he was 1st born i gave him a pacifier and he was he with her she would take it off of him. he is 19 months old and she even tells me what to feed him, when to feed him. i dont know about any1 else but she thinks 630 is too late for him to eat his dinner, i dnt think it is. Even if she takes him to the park and i dont want to go, she comes back saying "you missed out on alot today with him at the park". i take my son every other day and she moans about 1 day where i didnt want to go. Its is f*****g annoying me badly. my partner wont say anything to her as i've got the problem with her. how can i tell her to stop?

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Neva - posted on 07/30/2011

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I would sit down with her and say, "I know that you love my son, and I want you to have a great grandma-grandson relationship." Tell her that you appreciate that she takes him to the park and that she babysits. Then say, things have changed since her own son was little. People did things more according to schedule then, but philosophies have changed. Tell her that you may do things differently than she would, but that you are the child's mother and that she needs to respect that you are raising your son as you see fit, just as she raised her own son as she saw fit. Tell her that you would appreciate advice only when asked for and that you are following your own pediatrician's advice as to how to raise a healthy baby. If she says "you missed out on a lot at the park today, you can always say, I didn't want to interfere with your special time together. My son and I have our own special times just the two of us. Try to stay calm when you talk to her and you can always let her advice go in one ear and out the other.

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