My significant other wants to name our son a name that he wanted with his previous relationship for his son.

Beverly - posted on 10/15/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend is upset with me because I don't want to name our son Talon. He thinks I'm being selfish. Which may be true. But hear me out...

My boyfriend has a son from his previous relationship. He wanted to name him Talon. He never did as he chose a different name. Now he wants to name our son Talon. I don't want my son to have a name that he was planning on giving with his past relationship. I'm trying to agree with other names. But he down right just gets upset with me and says I'm selfish. I'm kinda at a lost of what I should do.

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Chet - posted on 10/16/2014

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I don't like the name Talon either. But if you don't like it because it would be like naming your son "claw" base this discussion on the fact that it's not a good name for practical reasons. Don't blame it on the fact that the name was considered for another baby.

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Raye - posted on 10/16/2014

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Not trying to defend your boyfriend, but there are other meanings for the name Talon. Yes, it means "claw", but it is also a symbol of strength, wit, and longevity. The marriage vows of eagles are made while being suspended 10-15,000 feet in the air, by locking talons together and turning head over heels with both eagles screaming in joy. Eagles are totally committed to their mates and will remain together for life. So, Talon could mean something beautiful.

I agree with the other responders... HE liked the name, not the ex. So it should not be a reminder of his previous relationship. However, you both should get a say in what your son is called, and if your b/f has chosen the middle name then you should get to be the final decision maker on the first name. You all will have to live with the name, so it should be something you're content with. If you chose to name him Talon and still aren't 100% happy with the name, maybe there's a nick-name (part of his middle name?) that you could call him. I have a lot of family members that go by their middle names.

Gena - posted on 10/16/2014

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How do you pronounce Talon? Tay-lon, Tah-lon or T and then the A pronounced like the U in umbrella-lon? (hope it makes sense lol)

Gena - posted on 10/16/2014

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The first time i ever heard of the name Talon was acouple of days ago. A friend of my father became a grandfather and said that if he could choose,the boy would be named Talon. Apparently his son and his girlfriend havent decided on a name yet.
I personaly think that if you dont like the name dont use it. If it always reminds you of his ex then dont name him Talon.But thats just my personal point of view.And i dont find it selfish of you..at the end of the day its your child and he will have the name forever,so rather go with a name you like and feel good with.

Beverly - posted on 10/16/2014

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He already wants to give him a hawaiian middle name. Which I'm not fond at all. But I agreed with because he is hawaiian and it's typical for hawaiian children to have some sort of hawaiian name in their name. His ex also almost named his son Talon but last minute they both changed because she was not completely inlove with the name herself. I just would prefer not to name our son after the word "claw"..

Chet - posted on 10/16/2014

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I agree with the others. I don't see anything wrong with your boyfriend wanting to use a baby name he liked when he was with somebody else.

I have an aunt who loved a particular name for her whole life. She wanted to use it when her first daughter was born, and everyone told her they didn't like the name and she picked something else. She wanted to use the name when her second daughter was born, but people talked her into using something else again. When her third daughter was born she finally used the name. Names are considered for one child and used for another one all the time.

Michelle - posted on 10/16/2014

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I'm with Jodi, you have only said it's the name he wanted not what she wanted. She could have said no and that's why they didn't use it.
I wouldn't say you're selfish but you could probably come to a compromise unless you really hate the name (not because of his past though).

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2014

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Is there any possibility you can compromise and use it as a middle name? You haven't mentioned that his ex actually liked the name or suggested it for their child, so I'm not seeing why that would be an issue. Clearly they didn't use the name for a reason.

Personally, I think you need to give him a break. When we are pregnant, we all come up with lists of names we could potentially name the child, and all but one ends up used. I think you will find that no matter what name he has on his list, it was likely on his last one too.

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