my sister and her three year old

Susan Faith - posted on 06/14/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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ok o my sister and her three year old son live with me and her son his horrible. He hits my 11 month old calls you bad names and basically ruins my home. i clean my home and he goes behind me and messes everything up. i love my sis and nephew but when i punish her son by putting him in time out for the things he does she gets mad and says he isnt mine and i have no right to punish him. i understand that but this is my home they are living with me i dont want to kick her out but all she does is nothing when he does these things she lets him do it what should i do i cant let her run over me like this

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Michelle - posted on 06/14/2012

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I would sit her down and explain the rules of the house. She's an adult and she has to step up by doing some housework and taking control of her son. Tell her that if she doesn't like the rules she's more than welcome to move out.

Maybe even go as far as doing a chore list for everyone. Include her son and her on it and make sure it's done. There things that he can like tidy his toys etc.

Susan Faith - posted on 06/14/2012

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yeah she is my younger sister. but the only thing is he only acts like this when she is away because he knows i will punish him he knows when mommys home he can do it and get away with it

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I am going to assume that she is a younger sister, so if she doesn't want you to punish her son for his actions, then punish her. Put her in the time out chair. Maybe she will get the pic.

Insist that she clean up after him. Insist that if she is living there she will put in to pull her own weight. This way when she moves out, you are not kicking her out. She needs to learn as does the 3 yr old that there are consequences and that someone will experience them. The choice is now, she or he. Her choice.

Your house, your rules. Not much different than living with parents but she seems to want a free ride. Those children need to have boundaries. Be the adult and set the boundaries.

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