My son all the sudden decided wants to move in with dad after 15 years

Terina M - posted on 12/09/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Is it as they have more thing alike. Like Taylors getting his license in May and they are working on his truck.
I'm more strick then his dad?
Very confused.

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Laurie - posted on 12/10/2014

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Glad to hear that you are being open and supportive with him. You certainly should not feel like he loves you any less or that he is trying to get away from you. He does love his father as well, and is probably hoping to build a stronger bond with his father since you have obviously done a great job of building a bond with him. Best of luck!

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Terina M - posted on 12/09/2014

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I agree. We have decided he would finish 10th grade living with me then see how he feels in the summer.
It was a big shock for me. As me and my son have always been close. I was just surprised.

Laurie - posted on 12/09/2014

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Might be that he wants to be with his dad for the male support. Not sure as I am neither a man nor the mother of a teen boy. But, it would seem to reason that as a boy gets older, even if he is super close to his mother that he would want to be with his father for the male bonding side of it. My thoughts, which can be taken with a grain of salt as I am not the mother of a teen boy nor am I separated from my child's father, are that you should take a breath and work with your son and his father to find something that works. Maybe start with an extra day here or there, or a week, as a trial. If they are both okay with it and you don't find that his father will be detrimental to his well being, work something out that you are comfortable with. Ask for your son's understanding as you make plans for these changes and let him know that it is not set in stone, if a plan isn't working the issues can be addressed as they come up. Try to be as flexible as possible and let your son help with making the plans. He is turning into an adult and will appreciate the respect you are giving him.

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