My Son also

Laurie - posted on 06/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My Son is going to be 28 this month, he is my youngest and I have 2 daughters also. He was so close to me growing up, a momma's boy if you will, and he always gave me the best cards. He had nice girlfriends except for one, but realized that and go rid of her. He dressed nice and still does, loved sports, and always did a lot of things with his friends. Then comes along his cambodian girlfriend. She was all nicey and still is, but my son has changed so much. They were in the mist of breaking up, my daughters told me and then she becomes pregnant! My husband, boyfriend at the time, said she trapped him. I felt it and I know his sisters did too. He called me a lot still and then they had a daughter a few years later. He got busy with work and the kids and then out of the blue, slowly stopped calling, still always see him in Holidays, birthdays, mothers day, but for four years in a row did not see him, she had plans for him. For the past couple years the no phone calls have gotten less and less, I call, no answer. He sets stuff up with me or his sisters and then blows us off. His father says he does it to him too. It is all about her family. They are all over their house constantly and they do everything with his sisters and not his sisters. They do a lot with him mom too and never invite me. I got so mad once drinking wine because they blew my oldest daughter off and she was mad that I left my daughter in law a nasty message. My son was really mad, and I apologized, but I still feel that it was their fault! Went away 3 weeks ago with all of them and of course the majority of her family and I have called my son 3 times and it is like that feeling all over again, what did I do now! Once in a while they will answer me on Facebook, when it is something she is doing, he never does, but they sure can say I love you to each other and she posts all the pics of them and her family and post it all the time. Very annoying. I think she does these things to aggravate me, I have bee told by 2 psychics that she is very jealous of our relationship, I really do believe it. If I died tomorrow, I feel it would even faze them. Oh, he doesn't even see any of his old friends. she doesn't like them and they are all nice kids!

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/10/2014

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I understand that you are upset, however, if this is what he wants, you cannot dictate that he and his family live differently.

I agree that, if he's confirmed plans with you and then proceeds to blow them off, he's being a little ass, and should be informed of that, but you cannot force people to spend time with you, family or not.

Should he want to? Presumably, yes. Does he? It seems as if he does not.

You can continue to communicate and attempt to keep the relationship up, but to me, he's indicated his preference, and that is what he is following.

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Laurie - posted on 06/10/2014

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I dont' want to be included in every aspect of his life, but her family IS and not me or his sisters. He blows us off because she wants to do something and it hurts me, his father, and his sisters. He doesn't return calls or texts and then the next thing you know a pic is on facebook of them with her family. So, don't agree with you.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/10/2014

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He's an adult, he's making his own decisions. I'm sorry that you feel that he isn't including you in every single aspect of his life, but perhaps he doesn't wish to do so.

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