Amie - posted on 05/11/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been together for almost 4 years. My sons dad is very inconsistent because he is unstable with his job, housing ect. He is frequently homeless so he's not around for long periods of time. My husband is my sons father figure. My son is 5 and tends to be hard to handle sometimes, he can be hyper, and manipulative, but I know it's because he misses his dad. For the most part he's sweet, and funny, and thoughtful. The last thing I want to do is break his spirit. What makes it worse is my husband and son are always going at it. My husband has said my son is the worst kid in the world. He's said it to him. They fight and my husband says he needs to toughen up, grow up and not be so whiny. I have to get in the middle of it and split it up. Then of course I then get yelled at. I have told my husband that Ty is not the worst kid in the world. He is a good kid, and he needs structure, We are all he has. He needs to feel safe in our home, not afraid, He gets normal discipline by me when he does things that are wrong. I think my husband is harsh with him more because he doesn't want him to be like his dad. I have said over and over the worst thing for Ty is to compare him, I want so badly for them to get along, but it is taring the whole house apart, and lately all I do is cry about this, and my husband is a very this is how i see it so this is how it is and if you don't like it you can get bent type of person. They have had their moments where the actually get along and it makes me so happy, but it never lasts long. HELP PLEASE!!!!