My son doesn't listen to me at all

Erin - posted on 11/12/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a single Mom. My son and I live with my Mother. My son talks back and doesn't listen to me or my Mother. A lot of times it is worse when all 3 of us are together. If one of us has him, say when I go to work, my Mother will watch him after school. I come home and he was good for her. He is good for me most of the time as well, when we are alone. I find myself yelling @ him in order to get him to do simple things, like brushing teeth is a struggle, sitting down when he is means to the animals, etc.

I also find he acts up when he comes home from being with his Father, even if it is for an hour or 2. He isn't around a lot and isn't consistant with calling. He is very aware of who is Father is as a person. I refuse to let me grow up that way. He is bad news.

Anyway, I don't know what to do to get him to listen because I have tried taking things away. It doesn't work anymore. My son is my love. I have made him my life and that probably wasn't such a good idea. I haven't dated in 3 or 4 years now. I always thought that I needed to be there for him because his Father wasn't / isn't. I may have spoiled him. I don't know, but I think his reading is suffering from it. I watched him doing this reading app on our tablet and he doesn't concentrate. Help!

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you can look into programs at your local YMCA or church/synagogue. but i'm pretty sure at 5 he can pretty much go and be apart of any program.

Erin - posted on 11/13/2013

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Thanks Emily. My son is 5, sorry thought I wrote that. I didn't know that those clubs were for young kids too. I appreciate the advice so much.

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There are several factors that could attribute to the behavioral issues. How old is he? Has anyone at his school mentioned bahavioral issues during class? It's tough being a single mom. Let him know that you are there to talk when he's ready to speak about what he did with his father during their visit. Maybe you can pick up on something he talks about? Don't be too pushy. In the mean time- I know you feel like you need to be there and your personal life has suffered from it. How about you get involved in an after school activity (brothers/sisters club for instance I found it helped with my friend's kid. You never know how easy it is for kids to talk to others about whats buggin them if they feel like they will get it without giving judgement as a follow up. Let us know the progress. Good luck!

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